Candace Cameron, best known for playing DJ on Full House, has written a book called Balancing It All: My Story of Juggling Priorities and Purpose.
In that book, she says that she's submissive. This has cause quite a stir.
I completely understand it's what works for their family.
But it would not work for my family.
This was also talked about on The View. Sherri Shepard said something like, "Well, SOMEONE has to give in." In my eyes, it doesn't have to be the woman. And yes, I totally get that just because a woman is submissive that it doesn't mean she doesn't have a say. She certainly does.
I would resent my husband if he always had the last word. For example, a while back he thought about changing from the Air Force to the Army because he was frustrated on how things were going in his job. He even met with a recruiter.
I basically said no thank you.
Why? Well, because I know the Army deploys more. I know the Army gets shot at more. I was not comfortable with the idea. I knew it would not work for us and I stated this. Eventually Tom dropped the issue and things worked out with the Air Force. He got accepted into K9 school and he was happy again. He admitted that he was glad he had stayed with the Air Force.
If I were submissive and allowed him to make the move to the Army believing that he knew best for our family, I don't think I'd be happy.
In our family, we both have to agree on an issue. Otherwise it's dropped. Someone doesn't have to give in.
Candace also says in a Huffington Post article, "It is very difficult to have two heads of authority. It doesn't work in military, it doesn't work -- I mean, you have one president, you know what I'm saying?"
Well, see, there are two heads of authority in our house. And it DOES work.
It simply reminds us all that each family is different. What works for one, might not work for another.
And that is okay with me.