Have you heard about the campaign to ban the word bossy? (No? You can click here for more information.)
It's a nice idea, don't get me wrong.
But I'm going to continue to use the word bossy.
My daughter...she's bossy. And you can throw in words that mean the same thing: executive decision maker, outspoken...but it all means the same to me: bossy. Is it fair that boys are called leaders whereas a girl is labeled as bossy? No. But if the kid is okay with being called bossy, does it matter? Does the word need to be banned?
I agree that it's important for girls to have high self esteem. So many of them begin to think they are fat or ugly at such a young age. This makes me sad.
But telling them not to use the word bossy isn't going to help in my eyes.
Praising them will.
I tell my daughter daily that she's smart and pretty and to ignore anyone who says different.
"There's a boy at the park who calls me ugly. I tell him at least I don't smell like feet," Natalie told me once primly.
She's called bossy many times during the week. From me. From her daddy. From her brother. From her friends. Does it bring her down? Nope. She'll sometimes just be like, "I just know what I want to SAY!" Other times she's all, "I'm bossy because I know what I like."
How is that a bad thing? She knows what she likes! Isn't that confidence?
You know what words should be banned?
TOTES (people actually say "I am TOTES excited." No.)
Oh, did I say that already? I really abhor the word selfie.
Bossy can stay.
Great campaign but...my daughter is BOSSY.