"It must be nice to be a military family! Sounds pretty easy!"
I received this comment a couple of years ago on a blog post and it has always stuck with me.
Sure, saying goodbye to my husband every year is super easy.
Not being able to plan because you don't know what will pop up? Simple!
I'm pretty frustrated at the moment because we had plans for June. Tom had his leave scheduled so we could go to Texas for a family reunion at the beach.
Well, a couple days ago he was told, sorry, you can't go, you have to go to NCOA. For the non-military folks, it means non-commissioned officer academy. Since Tom is E-6 (or tech sgt in the Air Force), he has to go to this six week course to learn how to be a proper non-commissioned officer.
I mean...of all the times for him to have to go! The one month we had plans.
But that's military life.
Last year he was supposed to come with us to Disney World. But he got put on a deployment and couldn't.
This year I thought, yay, he'll be here for my birthday. (It's June 19th.) He'll be here for the family reunion.
When Tom told me he had to go, I had a mini breakdown. I'm not one of those wives who squares her shoulders and says things like, "We'll work it out. We'll be okay." I have real emotions.
I said the Air Force could kiss my ass.
I told him if they tried to deploy him during Spring Break next year that he'd have to say he couldn't, he had plans, we're going to Disney World, send someone else, one of those single troops.
But it's not how the military works. If he has to deploy, he can't decline. Odds are, I'll be alone when we go to Disney World next year.
I also shrieked, "I'm just tired of all the bullshit."
I ugly cried.
Tom cautiously passed over the tissue box. "You have snot....all over.." He gestured to my face.
I know it's not his fault. But it's so incredibly frustrating. How are these troops supposed to have a good family life if the military won't allow it?
It doesn't help that congress keeps taking away from our military members. A bunch of troops are getting kicked out this summer to help save money! You can imagine how morale is. But Congress still gets their hefty paychecks and their free lunches and vacations.
So I get to go on another trip without my husband.
Military life is easy?