Thursday, February 18, 2016

Stop Telling Parents They Can't Get Their Baby's Ears Pierced







If I'm being honest, when I first heard the news that Chanel was born, I thought it was a creative fashion campaign. Then I realized no, it was a human being. I guess I've been living under a rock, because I realized it was the daughter of Coco and Ice-T, names that make me think of beverages, not people.

Anyway. 

I guess Coco announced she got Chanel's ears pierced, and the Internet got mean. You can read the story here.

Well, Natalie's ears were pierced at one. No, she did not give us permission, which is why some of the commenters were getting so upset. But her ears wouldn't BE here without me, so I felt like I could pierce them if I wanted to. I carried her. I nursed her. I pierced her ears. If this irritates people, well, remember she's not yours. You weren't the one wondering if she'd EVER use her crib. You weren't the one who dealt with a disgusting poop explosion at Target. Multiple times. You weren't the one whose nipples she liked to chew on.




Unless a mother asks you for your opinion, keep your rude thoughts to rants with your friends. Or, you know, vaguebook it.

Natalie was NOT traumatized when she got her ears pierced. She yelped for a second and then was back to chewing on my nipples. She's NOT upset that her ears are pierced now that she's older. She loves her earrings.

HOWEVER.

My Mom got my ears pierced when I was about three. It did NOT go well. I did not want her around my ears so they eventually closed up. Do I resent her? Um, no. Because I have a life. Am I like, "She put holes in MY ears?" Um, no. Because I have a life.

So seriously. People who feel the need to be cruel because of what THEY believe? Stop it. This parenthood thing is hard enough as it is. Focus on the people YOU are raising.

Now, if you'll excuse me, I'm off to purchase some more earrings for my daughter.

73 comments:

  1. i got mine pierced as a baby and i'm glad.

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  2. I figure I'll let Lily get them pierced when she's old enough to know how to take care of them. *shrugs* If people want them pierced early, go for it. I was too sleep deprived to think about it.

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  3. Seriously, it's a personal decision and people need to keep their damn noses out of everyone's business.

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  4. People are absolutely ridiculous! Everyone has to have an opinion on what others do, it's annoying.

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  5. Those people are rabid. The circumcision people are even worse. Everyone needs to quiet their mouths, I think!

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  6. I kind of wish my mom had done that with me. I had mine done at 13 and they got infected because I was an idiot and didn't take care of them. Anyhoo, you're a great mom so eff anyone who says any crap to you about Natalie's ears!
    PS get her an Easter pug!!

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  7. Both of my girls were about 6 months. They didn't really care then and they sure don't care now. If they did care they could always let the holes grow up. I'm sure they are going to do worse to their bodies than piercing their ears.

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  8. Amen, sister! LOL. I wish people would just worry about their own children and stop judging other moms.

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  9. I hate when parents get all judgmental! I chose to wait until my daughter WANTS to get her ears pierced, but it doesn't bother me if someone else gets their child's ears pierced when they're a baby. It's like a circumcision (another thing people have no business judging about)...you don't remember how much it hurts when you're that little. I got mine done when I was 8. While I love having pierced ears, I almost passed out at the time.

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  10. Truth! People need to enjoy their own lives. Quite creating drama.

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  11. We pierced my daughters' ears each when they turned 1. The oldest took them out when she was older and let the holes close, and for her 18th birthday we took her to get her belly button pierced. (it's what she wanted) The youngest still wears ear rings every day.
    People are just looking for reasons to be jerks online, an argument to have, it gives them attention for a minute. So sad.

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  12. People are so obsessed with other people's lives, it's sad.

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  13. People are so ridiculous. If you kid grows up and doesn't want her ears pierced, take them out and let them close. Problem solved!!! It's so weird to me, all these "issues" we've created surrounding parenthood in the last decade or so... none of these things were "issues" when we were going up. People like to just think they are right about everything, which is so annoying.

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  14. Can we just forget the ear drama and talk about how stinkin' cute your daughter was/is?! Those pictures are adorable!

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  15. Yes!!! In fact, in general I think parental judging needs to just STOP. Let everyone raise their kids the way they want to raise them. As long as they aren't abusing them and the children's needs are being met, stop it already. My ex-husband's parents were all weird about ear piercing. His sister wasn't even allowed to get her ears pierced in HIGH SCHOOL. He used the old, "If God had meant you to have holes in your earlobes, he would have put them there." She snuck out and had them pierced and he didn't speak to her for days.

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  16. Yes, judging parents needs to stop! I get tired of feeling like I am the worst parent in the world because I do something differently than other parents.

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  17. So, I pierced my eldest daughter's ears when she was a baby, and she's fine. She doesn't resent me, she actually wants more, she now has two piercings on each ear. My youngest daughter has zero piercings with a chance of zero, because she's not down for needles.
    The only reason we did not pierce my youngest daughter's ears was because we were waiting for her to be a little older than when we pierced our oldest daughter's ears, but waiting, turned into forgetting, and forgetting turned into she could talk and say NO. :D
    XOXO

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  18. Well said. It seems like people just look for something to get their panties all in a bunch over. I had my daughter's ears pierced as a baby and she's fine. Matter of fact, now she has gauges in them and the hole is like 100 times what it was, so I just gave her a little head start on that.

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  19. Eh, seriously? Do they not have better things to do with their times? What is the big deal? Girls in Brazil get their ear pierced on the day they're born! Ahhhaaaa.

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  20. Like you, pierced our little girls ears too when she young. When I was pregnant, I knew I wanted to do it early after I dreamed seeing my baby girl with little earrings soon after birth when the nurse brought her to me from the nursery on day 1. While pregnant, I wistfully began looking at all of the other cute baby girls with earrings and told others of my intentions.

    After she was born, all the family gifted her with pretty earrings including a pair of absolutely darling pearls like mine. Unsure, I asked our pediatrician what she thought about it. Well ours was supportive as she reached in her pocket, and took out a picture of her six month little girl with little gold balls in each ear, saying,” …this is what I think.” She encouraged me to go ahead and said it was best as an infant when mommy could care for them because older girls ages 2-5 who said they wanted it done, often fail to care for them. She gave me some suggesions for moms having their daughter's ears pierced which I'd be happy to share.

    For those who are negative and say "Are her ears pierced already?" Of course, I say YES and go onto to tell them she was born with teeny, tiny, little holes in each of their ear lobes. Our little girl keep asking and asking for me to put little earrings in her ears. Finally at six weeks, I did :) She looked adorable, did fine and started get compliments on her first day with little pierced ears :)

    I was never worried what others would say, but was thrilled to be "one of those moms who pierced their baby's ears." I think you're a smart mommy for doing Natalie when was one. Our daughter is five and thanked me for piercing her ears early since all of her friends are envious, and afraid.

    If you need our ped's trips, then drop me an e-mail.

    angietune@hotmail.com

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  21. Oh my -- and it's just the beginning of other people's opinions, lol! Seriously, do what YOU choose with your little one's ears. By the time she is a teen, I guarantee no one will give it a second thought :)

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  22. My ears were pierced when I was a baby, and I can't even remember the experience. I even went on to get myself more piercings in my ears when I was older. This is the parents decision and there is nothing wrong with it

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  23. When my daughter was 1 month old I pierced her ears. Some might not agree but it was done by her pediatrician. She didn't even cry.

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  24. My ears were pierced when I turned one. My sister's baby, only 3 months old just got hers pierced yesterday. I have no problem with this at all! I think the earlier, the better and most girls want them anyway :)

    www.KatrinaJeanCarter.wordpress.com

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  25. Eh, I'm not crazy about the idea of getting their ears pierced. I also dont care if you do get them pierced. You do run the risk of a child growing up wishing you hadn't but really that's not the end of the world.

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  26. Everyone is entitled to their opinion but do you really have to be mean about it. No. Why would you? What the point? I guess it's to be expected when you put things out there.

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  27. I had my twins' ears pierced when they were 3 months old and my mother-in-law thinks it's better to remove them because she doesn't want them in pain. And she did so the holes closed up. It was insulting and crazy.

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  28. I dont see anything wrong with getting them done. But I waited for my daughters!

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  29. I got both of my daughters ears pierced when they were babies too. Now they are 11 and 12. Only one of them wears earrings, the other one doesn't.

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  30. Oh, my mom told me that I had my both ears pierced when I was a baby. Glad to read about this.

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  31. I totally agree that we need to keep our parenting decisions/opinions to ourselves! Being a parent is hard enough without the extra layer of criticism! -Erin at www.stayathomeyogi.com

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  32. For me, it's your kid and it's up to you to decide. It's about time parents stopped listening to those who keep judging them. At the end of the day, we know what's best for our kids and other people can just shut up or raise their own children.

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  33. I really hate when people step in to watching & commenting on other's lifestyle and decisions they make. Both my girls have got pierced at the age of two and they did not have any issues at all!

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  34. My parents pierced my ears when I was below 2 years.I am glad that they did it.Because now I enjoy wearing different earnings.It is decision of parents and I don't blame for them.It is same with other parents too.If I have a daughter in future,I will do the same for her too :)

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  35. I have to disagree. Ear piercing is cosmetic, and babies cannot consent to cosmetic procedures. I would never pierce my children's ears without their consent.

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  36. People are overly concerned with other people's children if they have an issue with someone's choices for their child, that is harmless. I had my ears pierced at 6 weeks and again at 13 and I am getting another at 21. As long as you are not abusing your child...rock on!

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  37. It's a fairly common practice back in india and there is no such issue .. Even Nose rings are general phenomenon too

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  38. I got mine pierce at 11 and my sister at 8 but it was just because my mum wanted to let us the choice to have them pierced or not. I know this is a big debate but to be honest, I don't see why you could not have your baby's ears pierced. xx corinne

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  39. I personally wouldn't pierce my baby's ears, but I don't think it's up to me to tell what others can and cannot do.

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  40. I'm not sure where I stand on this one. It is just earrings, but then why do you need to do it to a baby? It's just cosmetic, which seems a bit unnecessary.

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    1. I disagree, but I appreciate your opinion :)

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  41. Wow. This is news to me, I thought it was normal to get a baby girl's ears pierced. Boy, people can really get bent out of shape over the smallest things. Time would be better spent taking up a REAL cause.

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  42. my mum got ours pierced at 1 only & they say that earlier the better since the child's skin is too soft then & can handle the piercing!

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  43. It's amazing how mean the internet can be. People have been doing this for years including my parents.

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  44. Well what's done is done. Enjoy the fun of wearing earrings for your daughter! She is so adorable!

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  45. Awn awn... Such an amazing post, but truth be told I wonder what's up with people not minding their business, it's irritating

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  46. Awn awn... Such an amazing post, but truth be told I wonder what's up with people not minding their business, it's irritating

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  47. I think everyone is entitled to their own mind when it comes to such things, I don't think we should judge what others believe in.

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  48. AMEN! I am so tired of seeing this! I got my daughter's ears pierced as soon as she was able...and she doesn't even remember. She is not "emotionally scarred"

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  49. People like to have opinions on what everyone else is doing. Many times we just have to ignore them on go on! There are SO many more important things for people to worry about than if you pierce your child's ears. My granddaughter's ears were pierced when she was an infant and she looked adorable! :-)

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  50. I personally wouldn't do it but I am not going to gripe about someone else doing it. Your choice, my choice, end of story. :)

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  51. Mine were pierced before I even turned 1 and I am glad because I love wearing earrings but don't know if I would have endured the pain as an adult to have them pierced.

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  52. I think ear piercing is one of those cultural things. I had my ears pierced as an infant (now 30) and it was totally normal then and no one I know really bats an eye about it. I think people have gotten overly sensitive AND opinionated over the years and everyone should just worry about themselves.

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  53. You are right, parents need to worry about the child they are raising an not others. Everyone does things differently, if we all did things the same then life would be very different. I thought this was a well written post.

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  54. I got my ears pierced as a baby, but if I ever decided I didnt want them pierced I could just let the holes close. Its not permanent so I dont think its the worst thing a parent could do. I do think its maybe not the best to pierce a boy's ears , although I have seen that too.

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  55. I think far too frequently now people are trying to prove that somehow they know better than everyone else. I don't know why. But this is a thing now I think. And so we are always trying to tell other people what to do. What's worse is the same people telling other's what to do are more than likely screwing up their own lives. So it's not only mean but its hypocritical as well. Ah people!

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  56. Well, people simply do not know when to shut up and mind their own business. I am still not a parent but I used to leave with my brother and his family and I know how hard is to raise a family. And we do not need anyone telling us what to do and what is right what is wrong.

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  57. I got my ears pierced when I was a wee baby. The old fashioned way, too. My grandmother boiled a sewing needle and pierced my ear, leaving the thread in there for a week or so until the skin healed up. I've never had problems with my ear. Too be honest, sometimes it's better to have things done as a baby.


    Alethea

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  58. Oh my goodness, this photo is adorable! I completely agree with you. Not sure what it is about people feeling they need to stick their noses in where they don't belong. But I suppose when one is behind a screen, they feel comfortable saying just about anything.

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  59. Natalie looks beautiful in those ear rings. The end result looked good. But ye, people should mind their own business.

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  60. I mean, just because you changed someones diaper and brought them into the world doesn't mean you get to make every decision for them and what happens to their body. Although I agree that everyone should just chill.....I don't think your argument on WHY holds up.

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  61. I had mine done at 5. I screamed the place down when they did the first one and had to be bribed to do the second one. I went on to have them done three times - no harm done!

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  62. I had mine when I was much older but my daughter got hers pierced at 5. People should just mine their own business and get a life.

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  63. Internet people are so non-sense sensitive AF. Babies can be pierced! Here in the Philippines, babies get pierced as early as 3months old, usually after christening because it can heal easily.

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  64. People these days should just stop with all the judgement! I actually wish mine had been pierced earlier, they're such a cute look on little girls.

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  65. There's that fabulous picture of an empty list titled ALL THE PEOPLE WHO ASKED FOR YOUR OPINION. That would definitely fit in here. You do you, haters gonna hate. It's your kid in the end of the day.
    Katja xxx
    www.katnapped.com

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  66. I have no idea when my ears were pierced but for sure it is during my younger years as I can't remember that event. Well for us its normal to do the piercing by moms to their children. So maybe some sort of cultural indifference regarding this situation. -ANOSA

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  67. Totally agree with you. It's the most normal thing in some countries and it looks super cute :)

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  68. Totally agree with you, I hate when people butt their noses in not in their own business. I think its adorable when kids have their ears pierced.

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  69. I got my piercing when I was a baby. I am from the Philippines and it's kinda normal to have if you are a baby. Our parents believe it's painful when you get older. So, I think its not a big deal.

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  70. I also got my ear pierced when I was newborn and I can't even remember the pain. I also believe in the saying "Your kid, your rules."

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