Friday, August 19, 2016

Why Didn't You Marry An Officer?

"So okay," she said as she dragged a carrot through a puddle of ranch that was on her plate. "You said your mother was an officer in the Air Force?"

I nodded as I swallowed a bite of cookie. I was at another Scentsy party. I was working hard to be more social. Plus there was usually good food at the parties. So I'd go and listen about products if I got cookies.

"Just wondering," the girl continued. She took a bite of carrot. Chewed. Swallowed. And then said, "why didn't you marry an officer then?"

I nearly choked on my cookie. I grabbed the cup of Sprite beside me and took a gulp.

"No offense," she added sweetly. She couldn't have been older than twenty one. She was a new Air Force wife. I became one at nineteen. I remembered the naivety. Hell, even now, fifteen years in, I still can be pretty damn naive at times.

I thought about her question and wondered if other people ever thought it. Was I supposed to marry an officer just because my mother was one? Honestly, there was even a time when Tom played around with becoming an officer. But then he got busy and I never cared. I always told him I'd support him in whatever he wanted to do. I was thrilled when he went into K9.

When he had to deploy, I told him I'd be there when he got back:

Now he's a military training instructor, and I couldn't be more proud:

So I looked at the girl. Smiled. And gave her the simplest answer I had:

"I didn't marry an officer, because I didn't fall in love with one."


  1. That's a good answer. The first one that popped into my head was, "My mother is also a woman, and I chose not to marry one of those either." Because honestly, that's a really weird question.

  2. Oh god, Scentsy!
    These little young wives sound nasty, but they've never met a bitch like
    Your husbands awesome and that was a great comeback!

  3. I don't understand why people ask questions like these, I do love your answer though!

  4. The obsession with rank among some people really irks me. What a dumb question, but you have absolutely the best answer. Your love for each other is so beautiful. I love your wedding picture!

  5. Great answer!! I started dating my husband when he was enlisted, and I didn't think he would be an officer - it just worked out that his path took him that route. I love what you said :) Also, kudos to you for even going to those parties... I can't even handle them, haha

  6. awesome answer, I have to admit when I saw the title of this blog post I was confused. ( no military experience) I thought to myself because you fell in love with Tom and he isn't an officer why is this even a question. I wouldn't have been able to handle this with the grace you did. :)

  7. That was a great answer. Good for you!

  8. Umm.. yeah. Best answer to a dumb question. I know there are no dumb questions.. but.. this one came close.


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