Monday, September 12, 2016

Why It's Great To Be An Only Child

I'm an only child.

Instead of posing with a sibling, I posed with stuffed animals.





I got to experience peace and quiet on a daily basis. I didn't have someone running in and messing with my stuff.

Did I want a brother or sister? Yes. I asked my parents several times for one. "Instead of toys for Christmas, can Santa bring a baby?"

But it wasn't to be. And honestly, I'm sort of glad. And here's why.





1. You learn independence. I didn't always have someone to play with. Sure my parents would play the occasional game, but it was mostly me. I learned that it was okay to be alone. I actually began to crave it. Even now if I don't get my alone time, I tend to get moody. I also didn't completely lose it whenever my husband had to deploy. I was okay with being on my own at night because I had done it as an only child.


2. You figure out how to entertain yourself. If Mom and Dad are busy, it's up to you to figure out some entertainment. You can't grab a sibling and start a game. I came up with my own ideas.


3. Your imagination is generally spectacular. Since you have to entertain yourself, your mind goes wild. It's probably why I'm a writer.


4. You'll probably be a voracious reader. I loved to go into another world. Become friends with characters. I might have been an only child, but when I read books like Ten Kids, No Pets, I was surrounded by siblings.




5. You don't think the world revolves around you. I was watching Counting On about the Duggar family and Jill was telling her son that he needed a sibling "so he didn't think the world revolved around him." Newsflash Jill: I never thought this. Yes, I knew I was important and that my parents loved me, but I didn't get whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted. I was grounded a lot growing up for my sassy behavior.


If you're an Only Child, welcome to the fabulous club. If your child is an Only Child, don't worry, they'll be fine. I debated for the longest time if I was going to have another kid: in the end I went for it because I really wanted a little girl. And while sometimes I do wish I had a sibling to talk to, I know being an Only Child benefited me in the end.


So are you an Only Child?


39 comments:

  1. I'm not an only child, I have a sister. We have always very different people with her being the loud attention seeking one. This meant I usually kept out of the way and learned to enjoy my own company. It wasn't until she moved out (and shortly after I did too) that I felt that I could finally be myself. We still don't get on and haven't spoken for many years. I often wished I was an only child.

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  2. It's always been hard for me to understand the only child thing because I'm the third of four!

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  3. That's so nice that you had such a great experience being an only child! I've heard people say that only having one kid is "selfish" which I think is such a hurtful thing to say especially since not all parents are able to have more than one child for whatever reason. Any of the only kids I knew growing up were always happy and well adjusted

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  4. Only child here! And I loved it! Totally agree with everything you just said. My dad was the middle child of 5 kids and he did not like it...so I tend to wonder if that helped their decision to just have me! Haha

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  5. I'm quite not but Cassidy is! I think there are cool points to both. We almost just had Scarlet and we were perfectly comfortable raising an only child!
    I'm so glad we have Des, but of course I think that because I have him and he's spectacular.

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  6. I am an only child too, but what I wanted to say is, you were the cutest child ever!

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  7. Omg that framed picture of you is adorable and not only that but in the framed picture you seriously looked like that former child actress Alisan Porter from the 90s movie curly Sue seriously.! I mean when I saw that framed picture of you I caught myself asking Is that Alisan Porter? LOL And then I realized nope it was just you.Omg another thing just hit me too also there's another former child actress you resembled her name is Ashley Peldon she was on a soap opera called as the world Turns several years back and some other made for TV movie called Child Of Rage I think?

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    1. I love Alison Porter! I watched Curly Sue a lot. I'm not sure about the other actress you mentioned though.

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  8. Lol, this was a funny read - my boyfriend is an only child and I can totally see some of this in him!

    -Clarissa @ The View From Here

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  9. Thank you for the post. As parent to an only child (though I don't love the term) it's great to hear you love it. My daughter (10) is one the happier people I know - totally well-adjusted and giving to the point where we were concerned she was giving too many of her toys away to friends!

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  10. I'm not an only child, but I am the oldest child, so there were a few years I was all alone :)

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  11. I've got a younger brother...! I'm pretty independent as well so I can see the benefits of being an only child! ...

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  12. My siblings and I are all 3-years apart. May not be an only child, but my imagination was/is crazy!

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  13. My husband is an only child, and he enjoyed it. We're not sure if we'll add a #2 to our family.

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  14. I'm pretty much an only child. I have 2 half brothers (1 passed away in August) & a half sister, but they are all older than me & never really lived with us. My brother's stayed over on the weekends when I was really little. My brother Tommy lived with us for a few months when he was 18. But I was always alone playing with my barbie dolls & when I got older listening to music. I did know how to entertain myself. I still love being alone the most. I'm the happiest alone.
    http://therantingsofadramaqueensmum.blogspot.com

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  16. I have been always in a big family. It was fun and noisy with fighting for resources all he time. I guess an only child has many advantages that I can think of. But in the overall scheme of things parenting matters more than anything else. ebpw

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  17. I am not an only child, but my only sibling is 10 years older than me. He left for college when I was in third grade. So while I do have a brother, I usually still had to entertain myself when I was a child.

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  18. I am an only child and for the most part, I loved it. The older I got and the more I saw, the happier I was to be an only. My daughter is an only and she absolutely loves it. My husband got tired of her being asked when was her mommy and daddy going to give her a sibling, he told her to say, "They're not. They got it right the first time with me." The looks I've gotten from people though.

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  19. I come from a large family, and we have 3 kids...so I don't have much knowledge of only children! That said, there are benefits both to being an only and having siblings. The most important thing is that you have a great attitude about it. Thanks so much for joining in at the #happynowlinkup!

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  20. That was such a good article. My son most likely will be an only child. We have chosen to put him in a private school, take him on holidays and give him the quality of life I never had. He never asks for a sibling, well not yet...lol

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    1. Sounds like he has a great life! He might ask ;) I know I did several times. But at the same time, I liked my life as it was.

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  21. I'm an only child and it was kind of lonely growing up. I also always wanted a brother or sister. So I always thought that when I have kids, I'm going to make sure they have a sibling. Unfortunately I had my son so late in life (36) and he is quite a handful. Hubby and I decided that we couldn't handle another. But at least he has cousins and has found ways to entertain himself. I still wish we could have had another kid just for his sake.

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  22. I'm not a single child and I have two younger brothers and while growing up how I wished, I was just the only kid so that I could get all the attention from my parents. But now I'm thankful to have two brothers as we got each others back.

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  23. Hi, I am not an only child, but for the most part grew up as one. The learning independence is so true! I had to be independent very early on, and I believe my upbringing allowed for me to get through those first few years!

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  24. I am not an only child but I can relate to these points because of the age gap between myself and my older brothers. I definitely know how to be alone and entertain myself :)

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    1. I think that's important! Some people have no idea how to entertain themselves.

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  25. I was kind of an only child, but with 7 siblings. It's weird I know, but I get where you are coming from. #happynowlinkup

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  26. I have one daughter. Don't plan another, but I have sister. My sister's behaviour has caused me a lot of headache. Definitely agree to all that you said

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  27. I have one daughter. Don't plan another, but I have sister. My sister's behaviour has caused me a lot of headache. Definitely agree to all that you said

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  28. This was a nice read. Love your perspective!

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  29. I think there are great things about every kind of child! I love being the older of two but can totally see the benefits of each one!

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  30. Omg just love this!!!! My duaghter is an only child!!!!!

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  31. I am an only child and I turned out just fine :) two of my closest friends are also only children. It depends on who you talk to. Some people find that a sibling is better for playmates etc. But I look at it as the mother and her health. If one was difficult on her health, than there shouldn't be any pressure on her for another one. I am in the boat at the moment as I am 37 and think I only want one :)

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  32. I don't think I would survive being the only child...
    Maybe I would be spoilt by now because of the attention huh!!

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