There are reasons why my husband isn't traveling with us.
1. Work. He's in the military. He's a TI in the Air Force, so getting leave can be tricky. A TI means he's the one that helps to instruct the new people coming into the military at boot camp. You can't just be like, "I'm going on vacation!" You need to plan. And because he hasn't been at this base for a year, he knew he wouldn't be able to get off. But he gave us his blessing.
2. He can't take too much of Disney. He was there in 2008 and I believe we stayed for 6 days. It was a bit much for him. He's not a fan of crowds. He's not a fan of the peppiness of Disney characters. He says he can take 2 days of Disney, and it's about it for him. The kids and I are staying 4 days.
3. He can get a little moody. I'm not always a fan of traveling with my husband because he can be cranky when there are tons of people around. I wish he would be constantly upbeat, but it's not his personality. I get it. I tend to get hangry and snap. I know I'm not perfect either. I also know I'm not the only one who bickers with my husband on vacation. While I was at Sea World, a husband and wife were snipping at one another. "Well, where are we headed? You tell ME, Deborah!" And Deborah was like, "I'm not the one planning all of this. It would be nice if someone else had a plan!" I smiled, because it reminded me I wasn't alone.
This is how my husband smiles 90% of the time
4. Florida isn't his favorite place. But he did say he'd go back with us one day if we only did 2 days of Disney. He'd want to do 1 day of Universal, plus go the Kennedy Space Center. We'd probably also do the Titanic museum. I don't know when this will happen. One day, I hope!
We'll miss him when we go. We'll text and talk daily. And I'm grateful he gave his blessing when I asked if the kids and I could go to Disney knowing full well he wouldn't be there. He knows vacations are important, even if the entire family can't make it. (He was actually supposed to go to Disney World when we went in 2015 but a last minute deployment popped up. Naturally. We still went, again, with his blessing.) The last time he was in Disney World was in 2008.
When your husband is in the military, it can be tricky going on family vacations. His loyalty is to his country first and you have to accept it. I do, but begrudgingly sometimes. He was able to take leave in July so we're hoping to visit his mother in North Carolina. It'll be our first family vacation in years.
So do you go on vacation without your significant other?