Look, I'm 40, and I know I don't want more kids. I also want to go off birth control. The odds of me getting pregnant are slim, but I know it can still happen. I've read the horror stories about women falling pregnant at 45. Granted, to them, it's not a horror story, but to me who is quite finished after 2 kids, it is. Oh sure there are condoms and other ways we could prevent a pregnancy, but you know, I pushed 2 human beings in the world, and it hurt, so it's my husband's turn.
Yes, he was worried about a vasectomy. When I first introduced the idea years ago he looked at me in absolute horror and was like, "Do you know what they DO?"
Well, yes. Do you know everything I had to do in order to have our children? Morning sickness. Getting fat. Stretch marks all over. Tears. Down there. Stitches. Down there. So yeah. It was hard for me to sympathize.
However, I am of the belief that it is "your body, your choice." I don't have the right to say what you do with your own body. So I never pushed Tom. Years went by. And then Tom agreed to do it.
Before a vasectomy even happens, you have to sit through a briefing where they go over everything that will occur.
I thought this would frighten him.
And it did, a little. But he still made the appointment to get it done. I was not allowed to go in. I thought he might emerge walking bent over, in intense pain, but he strolled out upright after 25 minutes. He was numbed down there, obviously, and said he did feel a little bit, but it wasn't as bad as he thought.
Repeat: IT WASN'T AS BAD AS HE THOUGHT
I decided to make it as fun as I could for him at home. Starting with getting him his favorite treats:
I also got him a card from Etsy:
I got funny cupcake toppers from Amazon here:
I also got some amusing balloons from Amazon:
Oh, and my husband recommends getting these after a vasectomy. These come with underwear recommended for after a vasectomy. You can get them here. Plus the name is hilarious:
How is he doing? He's still sore, mostly on his left side he says. But it's not unbearable. I still have to be on birth control for a while to make sure the vasectomy worked. He has to go in and give a sample to be sure in a few weeks. He's able to move around slowly and he's been mostly resting on the couch.
But if your man is on the fence, let him know he'll be okay. Remind him that you've done enough having the babies and that it's his turn now. He'll survive!