Monday, January 13, 2014

Experiencing The Movie My Girl With My Son

There comes a time in every child's life where they MUST experience this movie.


If you came out of me, you will be watching this movie. It's a given. I was thrilled that Tommy was finally old enough to understand it. I didn't give away the ending. As I put the DVD in, I said, quite formally, "This movie will change your life. It'll make you laugh. It'll make you ugly cry. It'll make--"

Tommy raised his hand. So cute, he's not even in school! He said, "What's an ugly cry?"

"It's what I do. Snot comes out of my nose, I drool, my face becomes bright red..." I explained.

Tommy winced. "That's disgusting. Why would you cry though?"

I waved a finger in the air and said mysteriously, "You shall see."

Tommy just shrugged.

I started the movie. The magic was about to begin.

"Now, Vada lives in a funeral parlor. So there are dead bodies," I said.

"Gross. Do they smell?" Tommy asked.

"Well. No. They'll be embalmed."

And then I had to explain THAT to him.

So we watched the movie and then IT happens. You know what the IT is.

I cried.

Tommy didn't like this. I don't know if it's an autism thing or what but he became irritated. "Why are you crying? It's a movie. It's not happening, really. Stop crying."

"It's just the IDEA of it really happening..." I sniffled as a snot bubble popped.

Tommy looked disgusted. I had definitely showed him what an ugly cry was.

I calmed down a bit until Vada's dad had to tell her what happened. Vada is all, "He's going to be okay, isn't he?" and he goes, "There were just too many of them."

WAH!

"Are you seriously crying again? Why? This is a movie," Tommy said, frowning. "You stop it."

He doesn't like to see people in distress. He doesn't know how to process it. It's going to be interesting if he does get a girlfriend. I can see them watching Titanic and Tommy yelling, "The actor Leonardo DiCaprio is alive and well. Knock it off."

I tried to keep my tears in. And I did, until Thomas J's funeral. Vada walks in the room and says, "He can't see without his glasses," and I want to scream along with her, "PUT HIS GLASSES BACK ON FOR THE LOVE OF CHOCOLATE!" Huge tears fell down my cheeks as Vada screamed, "He was gonna be an acrobat!"


"Thomas J!" I sputtered into my kleenex. "Thomas J!"

"This is JUST A MOVIE!" Tommy snapped.

I composed myself. Tommy was right. It's only a movie. The actor Macaulay Culkin is alive and...he's making art, that's the last I heard. I'm assuming he's well and hopefully off the drugs. Concentrate on that art, Macaulay.

Then Mrs. Senate, Thomas J's mom, gave Vada the mood ring and it was BLUE not BLACK and as she walks away Vada calls out, "Mrs. Senate? Thomas J will be all right. My mother will take care of him."

WAH!

"This is just a movie," Tommy grumbled. "No crying."

I sniffled through Vada's weeping willow poem and then the movie was over. Despite my crying, Tommy liked it. He thought it was cool that they were 11, like he is. He laughed when they kissed. He thought Gramoo was hilarious how she didn't talk and just sat there but oh, she can suddenly burst into song. (I wonder how it was having that part. Oh, little old lady, you just sit there and look like a stone. Or you sing. And we'll pay you. Cool?)

I love the movie so much and I'm glad I got to share it with my son.

Soon, when Natalie is a little older, I'll experience it with her.

"And that, my son, is why I don't like bees," I said solemnly as the credits rolled.

Thomas J!

30 comments:

  1. I haven't seen My Girl in years, now I need to go track it down. I'll watch it alone, my ugly cry is quite terrifying.

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  2. So fun to read your comments about the movie as you shared it with Tommy!!
    I don't think either of my boys have watched it - hmmm...
    And I have so many movies that I cry through every single time!!!

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  3. I love that movie. My daughter's best friend died right after school let out last year. I still cry when I think about it, and she definitely still cries.

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  4. That's such a great movie. I'm glad he was willing to watch it with you, crying and all.

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  5. Oh God, I had forgotten the glasses part. Now I am sobbing. I am glad you watched it with him and taught him about the ugly cry.-Ashley

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  6. The fact he even stuck it out through the end says a lot! I think my boys would walk out after the first tissue sniffle.

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  7. I don't know this movie at all, but I think it's wonderful that you made a point of watching it with Tommy, and that you will do the same with Natalie.

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  8. Lord I am crying just THINKING about it. Such a sad movie!!

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  9. I am crying just reading your post! One of the all time great movies!

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  10. I might cry from reading this.
    I have to say - his is such a unique perspective on being able to see through that it's not real. Of course many movies and books are based on real life, though.
    WAH!

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  11. I've never actually seen this movie, but I can tell from this blog post it would probably have me ugly crying too!
    And I think it really will be quite funny to see how your son handles a girlfriend with movies like Titanic. Maybe you should just warn all future girlfriends of his to not watch any sad movies with him! :)

    Michelle
    The Girly Gamer

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  12. I have this movie on DVD Plus I have the sequel Mygirl 2 Maybe you should get Tommy to also watch MyGirl2 as well.

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  13. I can't let Jayce see this movie yet because he is very afraid of bees. He'd never go outside again!

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  14. I haven't seen this movie in forever! Of course, now I'm going to need a good cry!! Poor Thomas J!!

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  15. It is a great movie, and so worth sharing. My husband says the same things as Tommy.."it's just a movie" grr.
    It's always the little subtle things that are the most heart wrenching.

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  16. I've never seen this movie, but after reading this - I think I might hold off on letting my kids see it until they are a little older :)

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  17. I was actually laughing at how you were ugly crying and your son's reaction. I am not ready to show this movie to my kids yet. They'll probably think Kevin from Home Alone died and get all confused. I also think I would ugly cry big time, now that I'm a parent. I am getting misty-eyed just thinking of how Thomas' parents must have felt.

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  18. Oh my god, I laughed so hard at this, especially the part about Leo!! You have such a gift for comedy. My ugly cry is pretty vicious also. :P

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  19. Lol. I am also the one to cry during a movie. I cannot help I get way to emotionally involved.

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  20. Such a sad movie! Teaches many great lessons for kids though. I think it's great you are having your watch it!

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  21. I don't remember crying during My Girl....Titanic yes. I haven't shown either to my son but his dad could have.

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  22. What a great movie this is. I never considered showing this older one to my kids. I think my boy would react pretty much the same as your son - meh, tears? quit crying mom. But my girls would curl up and ugly cry with me for sure.

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  23. Awww! My husband wouldn't get it either!

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  24. brings back memories! My girls have definitely seen me ugly cry and I know they'd be just as teary when they're old enough. they got teary watching pinocchio when he's kidnaped and doesn't think he's every going to see his Papa again.lol

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  25. I had forgotten how much I love that movie. My older son would probably ugly cry with me and my younger son would probably try to make us stop, because he hates to see people in distress, too. We will have to test my theory in a few years ;)

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  26. I forgot all about this movie. Now I want to watch it with my sister and a box of tissues. My son is only six but I can't imagine him actually sitting down to watch this with me!

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  27. I LOVE that movie and its awesome that you got to share it with him!! Ugly crying and all!!

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  28. I loved that movie! I haven't watched it with any of my kids yet (who are 15-23). I was thinking, as I was reading, that we should really all watch this together. Then you mentioned not liking bees because of it and I remembered that my 15-year old still screams and runs from bees and then I thought maybe we shouldn't watch it. Now I'm in a conundrum.

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  29. Dangit! Now I'm going to have to go and order My Girl and My Girl 2 thanks to you! Childhood favorites that for some unknown (and apparently effed up) reason I don't own...yet. Need to fix this.

    Oh, by the way, Beaches gets me doing the ugly cry. Every time. Without fail. Waaaah!

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  30. I saw that movie in the theaters with my best friend, Raime. We were freshmen in High School, and I remember how concerned her mom was when she picked us up because we were covered in snot and tears. Raime died when we were juniors, and I've never been able to bring myself to watch that movie again.

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