Thursday, February 25, 2016

Why I Don't Regret Letting My Teenager See Deadpool

I'm sure you've seen the signs floating around social media.





But I knew my teenager would be fine sitting through it.



1. He probably hears worse language from me. I have road rage, guys.


2. Nudity doesn't bug him because we've always been open with our bodies. We don't do cutesy words. I was like, "You'll see Deadpool's penis, but only briefly." It has never been a pee-pee or a tinkler.


3. He knows what a strip club is. There's a strip club scene in the movie and Tommy was basically like, "And?" because I did go through with him what was in the movie before he went.


4. He understands NOT to repeat the foul language in public. I explained when he's an adult he can make the decision if he wants to speak in such a manner, but it's best that he doesn't.


5. Yes, there's sex scenes in the movie, but he's a teenager and knows what sex is.


6. He watches Family Guy which can have some brash language and jokes. Look, I was never censored from the things I watched as a kid. I loved Dirty Dancing when I was small. I didn't focus on the sex or the language. It was the music and the acting that I liked. I also watched Look Who's Talking over and over again when I was 8 or 9. For the longest time I vowed I would name my son Mikey.


7. Blood and gore doesn't bother him. He has some pretty crazy video games and he sometimes stops and stares when we're watching The Walking Dead.


8. He's mature enough to handle it. A parent knows their child best. Natalie is almost 9 and would NOT be able to handle it. But I know some kids in her class have seen it because she says she hears the boys talking about Deadpool and how they got to watch it. I do not judge those parents because maybe their kids are okay with that sort of thing. No one should judge a parent for their choices.



So what do you think? Would you let your teenager see Deadpool?

37 comments:

  1. I watched a lot of crap when I was younger, mainly horror movies, that I shouldn't have seen. It's no big deal really. It's a fictional character.
    Besides Basic Instinct came out when I was in high school. I saw it and it was meh...to me. Haha. He's likely seen and heard (or will) much worse at school.

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  2. I think it would depend on the kid. My oldest is only 6, so obviously no. I agree with you. It's up to to the parent. As long as the kid can handle it, why not? I'd rather them see it with me, than hear about it, or sneak and watch it.

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  3. I think your most important line is, a parent knows their child best. I have made many questionable decisions with my kids that people didn't agree with, but bottom line, they are my kids. I won't judge you, you don't judge me. :)

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  4. I wouldn't let my child see it, and I did see those signs, but I didn't really see them applying to teenagers. Teens are different! I can imagine Scarlet being able to handle it by Tommy's age for sure.
    It's not like you took Natalie!
    I hope people didn't give you a hard time.

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  5. It's sad that you even have to justify this. Each parent knows what their kids can handle and has their own criteria for what kids can see at which age. I know my parents were way more lenient on what I could see than I am with my kids. We recently showed them the Short Circuit movies and both had a lot of swearing and some violence. They handled it fine. There was even a stripper in the background in one scene of the second movie. I doubt they noticed. When they see people in bed together, they think they're just cuddling.
    So no judgment from me! :)
    Side note: What did your daughter think of Beetlejuice? I can't remember and am too lazy to find the post about it.

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  6. I think it's different when it comes to teenagers. You know what he can handle and what he couldn't. Mine, 11 and younger- there's just no way. I saw parts of the movie and I can say that it's really not for younger kids, no matter who they are. But once they get to be teens, it's up to the parents.

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  7. I think an all or nothing "kids should not see this movie" is wrong. You have to know your kid, especially if he's a teenager. Every teenager handles things differently. Hell, some adults probably can't handle that movie.

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  8. I think with teenagers, it's a maturity based decision. Tommy is obviously mature enough to handle it. Now, for kids under 13, parents should realize that it is rated R for a reason and shouldn't bitch and moan because they took their 10 year old to it. I saw it and I loved it, but my kids will not be seeing it for a long time. They aren't old enough or mature enough.

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  9. I think with teenagers, it's a maturity based decision. Tommy is obviously mature enough to handle it. Now, for kids under 13, parents should realize that it is rated R for a reason and shouldn't bitch and moan because they took their 10 year old to it. I saw it and I loved it, but my kids will not be seeing it for a long time. They aren't old enough or mature enough.

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  10. Confessions: I have no idea what Deadpool is but... I believe that as the Mom, you know your kid. His age doesn't have to match his maturity level.

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  11. One of my first graders wrote a "review" in writing class about Deadpool today..I was shocked a 6 year old saw it! Teenagers though..I agree with you.

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  12. Your best reason was #8. You know your teenager best.

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  13. I think a large part of the problem with this movie is parents not doing their research before hand, and then being "shocked" at what was in the movie. I'm like, "the R rating didn't tip you off that maybe you should investigate a little more before letting you second grader watch?" I think you did the right thing, you researched it and talked to Tommy about it and you know your kid.

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  14. You know your kid best and obviously know what they can handle. I say good for you!

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  15. I honestly don't know. I don't want to overexpose her to unnecessary language/sex/violence, but I don't want to shelter her, either. ((Although she's only 16 months right now and everything is a cat...))

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  16. As Jen said, you know your kid best and it's your call on what your kids can/cannot see..! My parents were pretty lax at what I watched when I was a kid so...

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  17. I agree with everyone else - you know your teenager best. My boys saw plenty of R rated movies, because I knew they could handle it.

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  18. I think it totally depends on the child. I try to censor things, but you cannot censor everything. My kids love superhero movies but I'm thinking they're probably not going to watch Deadpool anytime soon.
    xoxo

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  19. My 14 year old will more than likely see it as well. Since she is our babysitter we will have to wait and find another one so we can go :)

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  20. Like you said, you know your kid best. I saw plenty of movies when I was young that I probably shouldn't have seen. I loved Dirty Dancing too, and I had no clue that Penny was getting an abortion. I just focused on the dancing and the music.

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  21. Parents have different ways of raising children and we don't have rights to judge them. They know their kids better than us and it's every parent's job to raise their kids to be a good citizen on their own choices and decision.

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  22. Maybe I would let my 17 year old see this movie but not the younger boys. I am not into these types of movies so I would not see it.

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  23. You're right, every kid is different and true, it depends on the maturity of your kids. As of now, I can't decide whether or not I would allow my kids to watch Deadpool since I don't have one. And since this is based on the maturity, I have yet to decide on that matter.

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  24. I love that you let your teenage son watch Deadpool. My parents were super protective and overbearing of me as a kid and it only made me more curious. I think I would have benefited more from an honest and open discussion in regards to adult themes.

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  25. Great post, you shouldn't have to justify what you take your kids to see or not see. It is your child and everyone does it different it doesn't mean it wrong. I have seen all the signs, but I haven't see the it, but if he wanted to see it he is old and mature enough to see it.

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  26. Depends on the mental maturity of the child I think! Nowadays kids can find things on the internet though, so I think it's better to have approval and know what they're doing. Than have them sneak behind your back.

    Sophie | MapleTreeBlog

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  27. I haven't seen the movie yet. We tend to check out the movies before we let the kids see them. I'm a stickler for not letting the kids watch things that are I feel are inappropriate.

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  28. I have no idea what Deadpool is. Thank goodness. LOL!

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  29. Parents do know their kids best. I hear the term Deadpool often, so I know it's popular, but I haven't seen it.

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  30. I think that it's great that you make your own decisions as a parent. You know what's best for your children!!

    Beth || www.TheStyleBouquet.com

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  31. I think it completely depends on you if you're going to allow your child to watch it. We always know what's best for iur kids after all.

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  32. I seriously love your attitude towards parenting- I am all for being upfront and honest and explaining things without using "cutesy words" etc. Having an open and honest relationship like this will only mean a closer relationship as he gets older. Hope you had fun at the movie!

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  33. I agree. I would let my teenager see it. I watched it and did not think it was too bad.

    Jocely @ Hip Mama's Place

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  34. I like your attitude, I think it all depends on what they can handle and after all age ratings are just guidelines they mean nothing!

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  35. I like how you think. My step daughter is only 14 and the crap I heard from her when she comes home from school is surprisingly crazy. We have not seen that movie because it's really not the type of movie we like to watch. I love the #8 ..

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  36. I have to agree with some of the comments here. A lot of parents don't do research and I think that's why we see so many kids watching movies not appropriate for their age. A teenager? well, I bet he hears far more worst things at school. xD It's better with a parent than with a total stranger.

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  37. Like you say each child is different. So its best to decide according to age and nature.Mine is only 4 so noway we are doing this now

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