I've seen the stories floating around social media.
Don't Have Your Daughter Be A Princess!
The Anti-Princess Movement!
Having Your Daughter Be A Princess Sets Us Back 50 Years!
Don't Call My Daughter A Princess!
I don't understand.
From a young age my daughter gravitated towards princess stuff. Her eyes would light up at the wands, the crowds, and the dresses. It never once occurred to me to tell her no.
There's nothing wrong with being a princess. There's nothing wrong with calling your daughter a princess.
I asked my daughter what being a princess meant to her and she told me, "Princesses are strong and smart." She's proud to be called a princess. In her eyes, you're calling her strong. Smart.
I know to some people being a princess is synonymous to being helpless. Depending on a man to solve the problems. Weak. But my daughter has never seen this. In her eyes, Cinderella was strong because she didn't break when everyone was mean to her. In her mind Merida doesn't tolerate any nonsense. Rapunzel was brave and left the tower--and saved Flynn.
Never in her response did she use the word "helpless." Or "weak."
It seems to be its the adults that are putting this sort of mindset into our children. And it's a shame.
Some parents lament over the cost of princess dress. "Who would fork out all that money for a silly dress?" But at the same time, their daily frappuccinos would probably cost the same amount within a month. Their purse might even be triple the cost of a dress.
Why do I buy the dresses? Because my daughter lights up when she sees one. Because soon my daughter will be a teenager and will be into makeup and boys that might make me nervous.
Look, my daughter loves being a princess--but in the next moment, she's Rey from Star Wars:
And then she's a fairy princess.
If she were ever told that princesses were weak, she'd laugh.
"But Anna traveled through the snow to find her sister!"
"Elsa ran away from the people she loved so she wouldn't HURT them."
Girls CAN be princesses.
And in the next moment?