Wednesday, June 28, 2017

If Your Bring Your Kid To A Movie Etiquette 101

I've ranted about the lack of movie theater etiquette often because as I get older, I'm finding I tolerate a lot less. It seems these days people don't have a lot of etiquette--especially during kid movies, and it can get frustrating. It seems when there's a kid movie, parents don't feel the need to discipline their young children, and I don't understand it. Oh sure, there will be more noise during a children's film, and that's fine, but constant noise? No. It's not fine, kid movie or not because guess what? MY kids, who know how to stay quiet, would love to be able to enjoy the film. It's not fair that they can't because someone else's child isn't properly being disciplined.

Trust me, I know it's tough, which is why I waited until my kids were 5 to take them to see a movie in a theater. Was it tricky having kids spaced 5 years apart? Yes. I would take my son to a movie and leave my daughter with my husband. Or we'd switch. We'd have our family time in other ways knowing full well that our toddlers would not stay quiet throughout an entire film.


I can generally be understanding, because this parenting gig is TOUGH, but not when I'm paying $10 a seat. Sorry. Here are some basic etiquette rules that everyone should follow.









1. Make sure your kids stay quiet.


No one wants to constantly hear little Johnny talk throughout the film. Some kids don't understand indoor voices, and they'll keep TALKING LIKE THIS. It's not okay. If your kid asks a question every five seconds, that's irritating to the people sitting around you. If your toddler keeps screeching to the point where the people around you cannot hear the film, it's a problem. Whispering now and again is not an issue because yes, kids can get excited.


2. Make sure little Suzy can stay in her seat.


People can feel it if your kid is running in the aisle behind you. I was once sitting in front of a family and the kid would walk from Mom to Dad and each time my seat would be bumped. I got Diet Coke up my nose at one point because I went for a drink and the kid slammed into the back of my seat. No apologies were said.


3. Don't let your kid put their feet against the seat in front of them.


I mean, it's common sense why, but a lot of people don't have common sense these days. I had to turn around and tell a kid to take their feet off my chair since the Mom wasn't paying any attention. Then she muttered something about strangers disciplining her kids--well, strangers wouldn't have to if you did it on your own, thanks.


4. Kids need to stay off the iPhone when the movie is on.


A parent once handed her kid an iPad in the middle of a movie. Someone else complained about the light and she yelped, "What am I supposed to do?" I don't know? Leave? With your kid? Hello? She didn't leave. She told the man to leave if he had a problem with it. I think he told a theater worker and that worker got her to leave.


5. The aisles are NOT a place for children to run up and down.

Yes, there are stairs. Maybe you want Billy to have a workout. But it's not appropriate during a film.



So please. Have some manners if your decide to bring your child to see a movie. I understand it can be a challenge taking young ones to the theater, but if you have to wait a few years, it's okay. Do something else. Go to the zoo. Go to a park. Explore your city.




And then in a few years, try again.

57 comments:

  1. My kids are 2.5 and 5.5. I do not bring either to the movies because both would not sit still or be quiet. I hate parents who do not control their kids at places like the movies. Just accept that your kiddo cannot sit still and quiet and bring them back in a couple of years.

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  2. Yes to this! It's time to bring movie etiquette back :)

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    1. I totally agree, it's not just children as well, I've been in a the cinema before when adults have acted awfully! In fact once I ended up getting a refund they were so awful.

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  3. you are so right a kids movie is one thing to attend where children are present but truly kids should be able to follow at least these rules
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  4. GOD. THANK YOU.
    I love children. I nanny for some incredible children. And you know what? They can behave. And their parents do not take them to adult movies where they might not behave. They hire me to watch them. It's really so easy! Lol.
    I went to see some pretty rough movies in the past and people had their screaming small children in the theater. How do they explain some of these explicit scenes to a 4 year old??? I gotta wonder....

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  5. Yes to all of these! Noise and disturbances are always so annoying when you're watching a movie. But to be honest, kids are not the most annoying one. They usually are quiet. Adults are the ones on their phones! xx corinne

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  6. My daughter is just one so I haven't watched a movie in what feels like foverer. I wouldn't bring her till she is a lot older and I wish there was a movie theater just for kids so that they could be free to enjoy!

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  7. After googling this topic, I came upon your post. This is just what I needed; thank you for sharing about bringing kids to the movies . We will be going a lot this summer so these tips definitely will come in handy

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  8. I love kids, they are so funny and is beautiful to see them playing and having fun, but you got absolutely reason! In some places this is not allowed and their parents must teach them respect and etiquette!

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  9. In addition to talkative kiddos during children's movies, I find it terrible when parents take their young children to R rated movies. Not only is this completely inappropriate, but many times their babies and toddlers start crying and talking during the film disrupting the moving-going experience. In California a movie ticket for adults ranges between $13 and $16.50, so it's frustrating for everyone in the theater when children cannot sit quietly during movies.

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  10. This is exactly right! My son understands that when he's in the theater he needs to be quiet. There was one movie that scared him to death and he started to scream so I took him out (it was a cartoon he is just really sensitive). It was the right thing to do if your child is too loud.

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  11. These sound like some great tips, I normally try and go to the cinema in school hours as it is always so much quieter.

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  12. Oh my goodness yes! I can't stand the way some parents let kids do whatever they want in public. Let me tell you, many adults need a refresher in these rules as well. I can see where the kids get it.

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  13. YES!
    I do have to tell you a funny story, though. One of my local theaters (long since demolished) had baby friendly showings. The movies would be adult-oriented but people could bring babies and expect loudness. Well they made a misprint in the paper and my friend and I showed up with our loud babies at a non-baby showing.
    Oh boy. Everyone got their money back that day.

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  14. Yes! And if and when your child gets antsy, walk him or her outside. And if all else fails, bribe with candy. :)

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  15. This is exactly why my three year old has yet to see Cars 3! I am so scared that she won't sit still long enough and I'd hate to ruin it for others!

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  16. What ever happened to the theater "ushers"? I vaguely remember there being someone assigned to check - and toss if necessary - those who made it difficult for others to enjoy a movie. Good checklist for parents and babysitters who take kids to the movies.

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  17. I know, right?!? When we saw Muppets Most Wanted, this one kid was screaming and crying and the parents weren't doing anything about it. My daughter finds ways to drive me crazy at the movies sometimes. I find it easier if she sits with her brother in a different row or a few seats away. Then she doesn't talk at all.

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  18. these are all so funny, and at then end true. i remember when we were little my mom would take us to the movies and if we didn't behave she said she wouldnt bring us again. it always worked.

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  19. these sure do seem like alot of rules to follow. While I can appreciate the equiette I think when you are goign to a children's movie all of thes things might happen and you gotta roll with it. Id be upset if this was an adult movie and this disruption happen. But hey those annoying kids, they paid, or well mom paid for their tickets too. We should all try and be more forgiving and curtious to each other. Thanks for sharing

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    1. I am to a point, but constant screeching is not okay, kid movie or not. I paid to have an enjoyable evening with my family, after all. Why should I have to to listen to screaming?

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  20. I agree with this entire post! My husband and I also take turns going to the movies since our son is too young to go. We go as a family to drive-in theaters though...they are great for all ages!

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  21. I don't think I've ever experienced any behaviour like that, I certainly wouldn't leave it if I did, that's what the staff are for.

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  22. I totally agrre. This is good avice for everyone.

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  23. Now that my kids are grown, I totally agree with you. All attendees should have a good experience.

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  24. I pretty much stopped going to theaters because of this. It doesn't matter how adult of a movie we go to, there are always young children in the theater and somehow they always end up sitting near us. I get that parents want to go out too, but it shouldn't be at the expense of everyone else's experience.

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  25. I hate to do this but typo in the title. "If you(r).." I am always grateful when people point these things out to me so I hope you won't take this the wrong way. Much love from England! <3

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  26. When I first brought my son to a movie theater I was worried that he will not last for the duration of time, but we did survive the less than two hour movie. I did instructed him to keep it quiet as others are watching. I did witness some of the movie goers who brings their kids to the movie house and tamtrums sets in. The stress from the parents the whole time.

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  27. Thank you for this post. I think even grown ups need some training in the etiquette department at the cinema.
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  28. Yes oh my gosh yes!!! We refuse to take E to the movies until she is at least 5. Kyle hates going to the movies anyway so we can avoid it as long as possible haha.

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  29. These are great tips! I know it takes extra patience when bring kids to the movie house.

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  30. I 100% agree with what you said. There is nothing like paying all that money for the movie and snacks and then having a loud, disrespectful child ruin it.

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  31. i can't sit through a movie so I don't see them. I didn't expect my kids to be able to sit through movies either so I never took them.

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  32. Absolutely yes to this! I really don't like when I go to the movies and kids or even adults are interrupting it.

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  33. Love this post! I'm still laughing at the first question. LOL, If I know my son is not into the movie that I want to watch. I'll pass with taking him.

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  34. This post was painful, I have a two and four year old and I could NOT handle it if either of them behaved like that!! and Ipad at the theater??? What's the point of paying for a ticket???? I can't stand when kids kick my seat!! So annoying, and no, I am not going to sit there while someone hits my chair or kicks it nonstop either. Parent's can deal if they are not willing to discipline. I would be mortified not insulted if someone asked my kids to stop.

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  35. This post is very helpful. The tips are very useful for any parent. Thanks for sharing.
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  36. Yes! This is the biggest problem sometimes. When we go to the theaters and if children are there they used to cry and shout which make a lot of noise. One comes to theater to enjoy the movie. I think before bringing kids for the movie parents should teach them some etiquette. Not everyone can understand and tolerate the disturbance.

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  37. Great Etiquette before planning a movie with your kids, I loved the 3rd point, at times its very annoying for the people if kids don't mind their hands and legs. its better to guide kids for letting go such situations :)

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  38. I hear you on this one. Not everything is for everybody and parents should really consider if their kids are able to act age appropriate at a theater. To another point you made .. and I have to agree. The older I get, the less tolerance I have for things like this. I wish I haven't developed edges and was as go-with-the-flow as I was when the kids were little .. but the realty is .. I'm not always anymore. Or maybe I should say, not as much as I'd wish I would be.

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  39. I never took my children to the cinema except for special small children screenings for these very reasons. Still, if it's a kids' movie kids are going to be kids!

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  40. Lots of people bring their children to the movies and they have no clue how to act. This is a great list!

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  41. You are so right about not enough etiquette these days with the children or adults for that matter especially in the kids movies. Thanks for sharing these basic etiquette rules.

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  42. We Love going to the movies! Definitely our disconnect time! :)

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  43. Yes to all of this. I didn't take my kid to the movie until he was 2 years old. I wanted to be sure he could sit and not disrupt others. I don't believe in taking a baby to a movie. If you don't have a sitter, stay home.

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  44. These are all important pointers for all parents. We always tell our children these things when we go to movie house.

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  45. These are some great tips. We as parents have to make sure that our kids stay on seats and do not disturb others.

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  46. OMG I think the first time I was brought to a movie, I was around 8 years old. I don't know if I'd be able to bring my kids to a movie, I'd be so concerned of them crying!

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  47. This are great tips! Totally agree - as parents it's important to keep our children quiet and well behave in movie theater.

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  48. I agree with all of this! We have three kids that are 9, 7 and 6 and we have been going to the movies with them for years now. They enjoy it and we do not stress because we know that they understand how to behave. So it is actually fun for everyone!

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  49. My boys were raised to be respectful of others when in public, whether it be movie theater or mall it doesn't matter. These rules apply to everyone, not just kids.

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  50. Thanks for your tips! I remember back in days were my Mom told us that going to the cinema is a right of passage. Yeah we only got our first cinema tried at the age of 13. It's okay we got excited to the point that we can't talk, LOL. #asianMomsbelike

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  51. my son has autism, so we practiced what to expect in the cinema before we decided to finally bring him there. We chose the last full show so that there are few people inside in case he'll make some noise. Glad he did not and enjoyed the film. From then on he likes watching movies in cinema often.

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  52. I personally don't have kids but I know my brother and SIL waited until my nephew was a little old and would stay in his seat before they took him to his first movie.

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  53. I do tend to give a little more slack when it comes to kids in kids movies, however being blatantly out of hand is a different story. I also like places like Alamo theatre where they take noise complaints very seriously.

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  54. Now, if only we could convince all the moms who let their kids act up at the movies to read and remember your tips, we would all be set.

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  55. I hope every parent would consider this. As much as we would want to bring kids in the movie theatre, we should consider other moviegoers as well. Also I think movie theatres can also provide age requirements. - ANOSA

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