When my son became a teenager, I wondered if he'd ever rebel. I mean, that's what teenagers do, right? But I'm lucky with him. I don't think he'll ever rebel.
Unless his hair is his rebellion.
You see, I prefer it short. And, you know, neat.
But Tommy has other ideas. He used to go to the barber for me. He'd grumble a bit, but he'd do it, and then his hair would be neat again:
One day he was all, "I'm never getting my haircut again." He said it calmly. But firmly.
I went, "Surely you'll get your hair cut at SOME point!" and he shook his head, fluffing out his hair. "This is who I am. This is my personality."
I mean, how can you argue with THAT?
Tommy has autism, so he's always been particular about his hair. Even though he'd go to the barber, he always looked like he was in pain. He doesn't like the sensation of buzzers or scissors. He likes having his hair over his ears. I would tell the barber firmly, "And his hair MUST be over his ears!"
He hasn't been to a barber in months now. He loves his long hair. Does it make me wince a bit?
Well, yeah. I would like to neaten it up. He says he might consider going in for a trim. Possibly.
But if this is how he is going to rebel, I'll take it. This is nothing compared to what some teenagers do. I mean, at least he doesn't want a piercing. Or a tattoo. And he doesn't smoke or drink. So that's something.
Today my son turns sixteen and I can hardly believe it. He was just a tiny little boy:
"With too short hair," Tommy says when he sees old photos of himself. "Now it's amazing." And then he fluffs it out proudly.
He is pretty amazing.
Happy Birthday to my long haired boy who might one day decide to cut it. (Maybe.)
Friday, March 2, 2018
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Happy Birthday Tommy! I can’t believe he is 16! Oh my god. This means I’ve been reading you for a really long time. You were pregnant with him and on OpenDiary then. And side note; I love his hair! He shows real personality
ReplyDeleteThank you :) Yes, I've been online a long dang time! I'll show him this comment--he always loves when people talk about his hair.
DeleteI kinda like long hair on guys! Of course, I grew up in the 70's so there's that. I think his hair is so cute!
ReplyDeleteI love the long hair! My father in law has long hair! My son is only 16 months, but I don't plan on cutting his hair until he asks for it lol.
ReplyDeleteHappy birthday to your son! He looks lovely with his long hair! And his hair looks so healthy and cute. Love the curls x
ReplyDeleteWe have to pick our battles and it could be a whole lot worse. I like short, neat hair, must be the military family coming out in me. Happy Birthday to your son.
ReplyDeleteWe all have to do the long hair thing. I used to love having long hair.
ReplyDeleteI keep waiting for Zachary to do this because he hates getting his hair cut!
ReplyDeleteAww! Happy Birthday, Tommy! Time sure flies. I think this is just a phase and he'll eventually "grow" out of it and cut his hair. I love that he has his own style though!
ReplyDeleteAwww happy birthday Tommy! I actually think the long hair looks great on him! And it makes him so proud and happy, why not keep the long hair! :)
ReplyDeletexoxo
Annie
Happy birthday to your son. I have never been a big fan of long hair on most boys. I got tired of arguing with my son about it. I let him grow it out and eventually he got totally sick of it, all because I had stopped mentioning it. It's back to being short and we both love it.
ReplyDeleteSo precious. I’m with you. It’s not worth dying on that hill. He looks like he’s a sweetheart. So glad he makes great choices!
ReplyDeleteHappy birthday to your son! I love that he is showing his personality and letting his hair grow out!
ReplyDeleteAw, Happy Birthday to him!
ReplyDeleteMy hair is one of the ways I express my personal style as well. Love how your son is very particular about his hairstyle! I'm sure he'll eventually cut it off though. Happy Birthday to him!
ReplyDeleteIt's great that you're letting him express himself how he sees fit. I do think if he's going to keep it long you'll want to teach him how to care for it, keeping it clean and trimmed and looking great, even long.
ReplyDeleteThe irony of this post is that your son is wearing a Bob Ross shirt. I am sure in the era of Bob Ross wearing a fro like that and being an artist he probably was a rebel but he is one of the greatest modern artists of our time!
ReplyDeleteYeah, I wouldn't mind my son having a long hair as long as he would take care of it. It's better than piercing and tattoo, I agree!
ReplyDeletehe has beautiful hair though. i love the natural curls! Kids need some way to express their individuality and he has found his way
ReplyDeleteAt least your battle is over hair. My battle has been over dress length. Getting my son to stop wearing minis without underwear has been especially trying. Tired of getting a glance of his penis when he crosses his legs.
ReplyDeleteI am all about picking your battles with kids. I don't argue with the kids over outfits or appearance for the most part. Who knows- he may decide to cut it one day.
ReplyDeleteHis shirt had me cracking up. His personality shines through, much past his hair!
ReplyDeleteI think his hair is awesome. He has so much personality, he needs a lot of hair to contain it!
ReplyDeleteI remember when he became a teen! Crazy. Happy 16 years of being his mama. Des just got a haircut last week and his bangs are too short and crooked and it looks like he cut his own hair and I keep laughing. So maybe Tommy has the right idea.
ReplyDeleteI love that he's so proud of his hair! You can tell it's definitely his "thing". You go Tommy!
ReplyDeleteHappy Birthday to long haired boy. I really love your personality, you are so clingy LOL!! Someday he can also decide that he needs to cut his hair.
ReplyDeleteHappy birthday to your dear son. He's a handsome young fellow long hair or not
ReplyDeleteAww such a sweet post! Happy Birthday to your son! My brother used to like his hair longer too! It changed when he got 18. Either way, as long as he's confident and happy with it that's the most important thing!
ReplyDeleteMy hair is one of the things that show who I am as well. And I appreciate your son for sticking to what hairstyle he wants.
ReplyDeleteI love reading your blogs about your children because I can just tell how much you must love them. I like that you let your son keep his hair the way he likes. This was a lovely post, thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeleteThat’s his style and he’s rocking it!
ReplyDeleteI loved this post. My son has Autism he is 13 this year and he too hated the barbers. He is now obsessed with a skin fade and curls on top I'm rolling with it at the moment xxxx looking forward to having a read through your other posts.
ReplyDeleteBB wishes The Trio would have been so "wild" in their teens. Mama,you is blessed. He's got it clean, it looks good on him, and it makes his soul light up, let him enjoy it. BB2U
ReplyDeleteHappy 16th birthday! The time goes way too fast! I hope he has the best birthday ever!
ReplyDeleteI change my hair color all the time, especially when I get bored from the old one. I think it's awesome that your son isn't cutting his as a form of owning who he is!
ReplyDeleteAhh me tooo! I'm changing up my hair all the time.. but I love it :)
ReplyDeleteHappy Birthday Tommy! If not cutting his hair is the extent of his “rebellion”, I’d say you have it made! It looks good on him!
ReplyDeleteHe has great hair, I don't blame him for keeping it long. Happy Birthday, sweet 16 is a great age to be.
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