Sunday, November 18, 2018

Why Do Kids Constantly Lose Stuff?

It wasn't even a month into school when my daughter informed me that she lost her lunchbox.

"One minute it was there. The next?" She shrugged.



I told her to check lost & found.

"I did. It wasn't there."

I sighed.

She has a bad habit of losing things. Gloves. Hats. Sweatshirts.

You'd think she'd get better as she got older? Well. Ha. She started Middle School and has lost the following:

Her lunchbox

An umbrella

Gloves

Earphones

A water bottle

None are in the lost & found and I know this, because I also checked it. But I'm told when things get lost in Middle School, you'll probably never see them again.

She did get lucky with a sweatshirt she lost. She found it wadded up in the corner of the cafeteria.

"Good news!" she told me when she came home from school. "The sweatshirt has been found!"

"What about the lunchbox, the umbrella, and the earphones?" I asked. I immediately threw the sweatshirt in the wash because there was a smell.

Natalie gave me a guilty look. She recently got this hat, and we'll see if she keeps track of that.



People are all, "Well, punish the kids who lose stuff!" and I have. She's had her phone taken away. (By the way, she left her phone in class once. Luckily that was still there when she checked. Seriously. She was LUCKY on that one.)

She also had to do extra chores.

"I feel this is sort of mean," Natalie said as she mopped the floor.

"I feel that losing things that I pay for is mean," I answered.

I ranted about this on Facebook, and I find she's not the only kid who constantly loses things. Granted, there are some parents who are all, "Well, my child appreciates what they have and treat them well," and I'm like, "Great for you, Susan."




Anyway, if Natalie loses stuff, I won't always replace them. For example, her gloves. Luckily she had a pair from last year, but if she loses those, she'll deal with cold fingers.

I haven't replaced her lunchbox so she's been bringing her meal in a paper bag, which she says she actually prefers. "Now I don't have the stress about worrying about a lunchbox!"

Her earphones were only $4.99 from Walmart, because I'm not stupid enough to let her bring anything of value to school. (Her phone being the exception.) Have I replaced those? Nope. But she had an old pair that she's been using. It only works on one side, but sorry kid. If she wants a better pair, she can save her allowance.

She has to use an umbrella with Elsa on it since she lost my good one. She is pretty embarrassed. "You expect me to use something I used in third grade?"

"Yup," I answered, passing her the umbrella.

So far she hasn't lost anything in one week. Progress! Maybe?

And yes, she has left her homework at home and no, I haven't brought that to the school because she has to learn to be better organized. I can't baby her even though it's my instinct. She has to learn. Somehow.



I will point out that my son, who is 16, rarely loses his stuff. But he has autism, so he can be particular about his personal belongings.



So what about your kid? Do they lose things? Or if you don't have kids, did you lose things?




39 comments:

  1. I don't have kids, but I can imagine this would be so frustrating!!! I hate losing things myself!

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  2. I think this is the thing that turns our hair grey as parents! I don't replace stuff when it gets lost, and if it is something that they need that gets sucked into the void, they get the cheapest replacement I can find. It's a case of tough, don't like the replacement, then don't lose your stuff.

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  3. I remember when I was a kid, I left my jacket together with my new pair of glasses on the football field. Of course I didn't find it when I went back for it. I am still forgetting things but it's a good lesson though, as the replacements do cost money.

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  4. Tell me about it!!! We even managed to loose some runners at the beach! they were only a few weeks old! So frustrating!

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  5. I think it is practice for when they get older. My husband is always asking me to help him find something.

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  6. I'm a believer that kids lose things because they aren't paying attention. Your tactic is the best because it makes her see what happens when she doesn't have the things that she takes for granted.

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  7. OH HONEY my kids are the QUEENS of lost stuff. I gave up trying at one point and would simply check the lost and found every single time I went to the school. It is mildly comical. They both have ADHD so organization is not their strength but they are getting better the older they get so that's something. One time my younger girl left her trumpet on the school bus. Our bus driver knew her well and he also knew she was so disorganized she's keep losing things if people didn't help her out occasionally. He delivered that instrument right to my front door after dropping all the kids on his route off. HE WAS GOLDEN. That guy was a lifesaver. I gave him great XMAS presents every year. One year also he returned my iPad which was not to leave this house. I was on a trip that was a fellowship writing from South Africa. I didn't lock it up apparently. He brought back so much stuff. Loved that guy.

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  8. I won't call names but one of my kids constantly lost stuff when she was growing up - from jackets to car keys to phones and everything in between. Now that she's all grown up and married, I'm going to ask her husband if she still loses stuff. LOL

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  9. My kids seem to lose EVERYTHING! My oldest is only 5 but her shoes, socks, toys, and toothbrush always seems to go missing!

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  10. This is so my kiddos! They would always lose stuff. Especially, items like hats and gloves during the colder months.

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  11. First of all, the gif of Judge Judy made me laugh out loud. I love her. My son is good about not losing things, so I am blessed. The whole family is good about not losing items. Do they grow out of that?

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  12. I think I am still on the look out for three lunchboxes, 2 hats and a sweater. So you are not alone.

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  13. When my kids lose things I won't replace it unless I absolutely have to. Then they get a lesson about why we shouldn't lose things. It's maddening.

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  14. This is totally my friend's story! She always tells and complains to me about that her daughter always lose little things like pencils or gloves all the time!

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  15. Ahahah this post is so relatable! I mean i am not a kid anymore but i still lose everything! back then too!

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  16. My kids lose everything! Mostly socks and toys because they are little but I swear we buy new socks every month!

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  17. I'm always wondering this as well. I think it must be part of the brain that allows us to keep track of our things that needs years and years to develop. Now I'm entering the age where I'm losing things myself all over again!

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  18. I know right!?! It drives me nuts! I just think they aren't mature enough or something? I swear it drives me nuts!

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  19. I don't have kids, but my wife constantly loses things. Does that count? They eventually show up where you least expect them. I try to set up things to make it easier and that does help. Like a basket at the door for the keys.

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  20. Yes, kids do misplace things a lot. Hopefully, by the time she is a senior and ready for prom, that will be behind her and she will able to keep track of her phone to take great pics like our prom bound seniors over at PromGuide. Keshia Richmond

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  21. My kids lost everything they touched when they were younger. Seriously, they would lose things and I had no idea how they could have disappeared.

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  22. I have triplet boys, and they are constantly losing items. Water bottles are the main culprit!

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  23. It's really frustrating when kids constantly lose stuff in school. We are facing the same issue. Sometime we punish our kids too. Hope this post help me out in this. Thanks for sharing

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  24. My youngest has lost just about everything. She wears uniform and I have had to replace the uniform items more than thrice.

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  25. Did you know that the habit of losing stuff seems to be genetic? One of my parents did it even after getting married and settling down and now even one of my children does it. Annoying but if it is in the genes what can I do?

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  26. Oh, yes! I would like to know the answer to this question, too! My daughters loose the stuffs all the time: an umbrella, gloves - 2 pairs this season!, a lot of pens... :)

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  27. My kids were notorious for losing socks and charger but it gotten better after we didn't buy them replacements anymore ha ha. Now they take care of their stuff.

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  28. I like your philosophy. I am a first time parent and I can not lie...I would probably do whatever I could to replace lost items. Forgiveness you know. But, I like the principles you are teaching here. Responsibility! I love connecting with parents that think alike.

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  29. I think kids can be so different.. some are very conscientious about being neat and careful, others are not. I have one who puts something down and can't find it 5 minutes later, and one who is very aware of where she leaves things. It is definitely a challenge having to chase down stuff all the time!

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  30. Yes, both do! And I get so annoyed. Once Scarlet took MY hat and lost it. That said, our school lost and found is full of stuff that is so obviously ours - like neon, Harry Potter or unicorn stuff..

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  31. Some kids are just prone to losing things! A friend commented today that her son said he wanted a haircut ... she said, so get one, you're working. He said he didn't want to spend his money on a haircut. LOL She said - she didn't want to spend her money on things like rent and electricity, but here we are! I think you're right in the game when you say, if she loses her earphones, she has to use old, broken ones. They still work, sorta.

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  32. hahahaha same here. haha the kids always lose everything and they expect me to look for their stuff. it's as if I have all the answers. haha sigh...motherhood.

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  33. Haha! Kids really lose stuff, even the most expensive ones and gets you so frustrated at times. I did too when I was young a lot of times! Oops!

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  34. I used to keep losing things as a kid much to my mothers dismay. I have lost money, lunch boxes, clothes, etc. It’s now made me get into this habit where I check for something multiple times a day to ensure it’s not lost.

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  35. Oh my goodness, ALL THE TIME! Shoes, brushes, everything! I don't get it either!

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  36. I'm always losing stuff! My son does too! All the time! Loved reading your post!

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  37. Haha, MrsFrugalSamurai loses stuff ALL the time, just today she lost our mailbox keys - IS IT GENETIC? OH GOSH I HOPE NOT!!!

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  38. I don't have kids but I always loose my stuff lol!

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