Recently my daughter was like, "Can you pick me up some highlighter the next time you go to Walmart?" and I was like ???
Actually, I said something like, "Okay, what color? Yellow? Green?" and she was like:
It turns out she meant the makeup highlighter. I mean, how was I to know? Who wears makeup highlighter? Well, a lot of people, I guess, according to Natalie.
She teaches me a lot, my daughter. But most of the time I have no idea what she's talking about. For example, she says she wants to have aesthetic clothing, and I'm thinking, "What?"
In middle school I was terribly awkward. I had zits and basically wore leggings all the time. I didn't care about fashion. I didn't care about makeup.
My daughter? She loves her makeup, she loves her clothes, she loves her fancy nails, she even wears fake eyelashes:
I can't even put anything on my nails because of a sensory issues and the thought of fake eyelashes near my eyes makes me shudder.
Sometimes I feel guilty that I'm not more girly. Wouldn't she have so much fun with a mom who loves fashion, manicures, pedicures, and understands completely what a highlighter brush is?
I love books and history. That's what I understand. Sweatpants I get. Wearing the same pair of shoes for years I understand.
But.
But.
Sometimes I see a glimpse of me in Natalie. Sometimes she wants discuss history. She likes history. Her middle name is Elizabeth for Elizabeth I and sometimes I'll tell her about Elizabeth I and her mother Anne Boleyn and she'll listen while resting her head on my shoulder, twirling a loose strand of my hair absently around her finger.
We might be different. But somehow, we get each other.
Very cute, my daughter is more girly than I am too!
ReplyDeleteYour daughter reminds me of mine. she is very into makeup and all kinds of hair and face products. I am more like you in sweats and a tee shirt.
ReplyDeleteI used to be really girly but am less so now. I can imagine this could be a struggle but it sounds like you two have worked things out!
ReplyDeleteMy mum and I are incredibly different! We may look the same, but I'm very creative and artsy whereas she's linear thinking but we are incredibly close, our differences just give us something to talk about
ReplyDeleteSuch a great post. I am very different from my mom, we have learned to find common ground and understand our differences but I can only imagine what she tought of me as I was growing up...
ReplyDeleteThis is such a sweet post you got each other and that is what matters most.
ReplyDeleteSweet post <3 My daughter can school me on makeup. She is super girly at times but then is happy in sweats with no makeup at other times. I guess like me in that sense :)
ReplyDeleteI'm not girly at all! I would have responded the same way as you "What colour of highlights??!" My mother and I are completely different. Sadly our relationship broke apart and I've since been left having little to no contact with both her and my sister back home.
ReplyDeleteI can relate because I am not girly at all and my two little ones are very interesting in nail polish and makeup currently. It's hard sometimes, but as long as you show you care, that's all that matters :-)
ReplyDeleteWe all have our own interests and styles.
ReplyDeleteMy youngest daughter is the girliest.. makeup, cute clothes, the works. I have no idea what I'm doing either when it comes to buying makeup! I had to buy highlighter.. or maybe it was concealer.. in a tube.. wasn't quite sure what I was doing.
ReplyDeleteI am actually more girly than my girls, lol. But they had lots of brothers to be tomboyish around. And I can be a tomboy as well. It all works out in the end.
ReplyDeleteLol, this is actually interesting. Glad that no matter the differences, there is still that mom and daughter bond.
ReplyDeleteMy daughter wanted to wear makeup when she was in middle school. Since my makeup repertoire was limited to mascara only, I took her in for a makeup session at Macy's. She loved it and I felt relieved that she learned how to put it on properly. She never seemed to care that I was all about comfort, but she is happy to give her input when I ask for fashion advice. Like you and Natalie, we have a lot of other things to bond over.
ReplyDeleteThis was the opposite for my daughter and me. My daughter hated doing her hair and I wanted her to have it styled
ReplyDeleteI agree, it’s more important that you guys get each other. I love that you’re such a super cool mom.
ReplyDeleteI was lucky my daughter was girly like me. I'll take your daughter for a mani/pedi, shopping, etc!
ReplyDeleteAww that's okay! You have such a wonderful daughter and a really pretty one. I'm glad that she is enjoying the things that she love.
ReplyDeletethis is funny and cute! you really have to adjust and let her adjust sometimes too. haha it's a give and take. sooner or later, she will understand that. :D
ReplyDeleteShe is such a doll. Yeah for girly girls. Let her be who she wants to be...I know you will.
ReplyDeleteVery interesting story. I didn't know that girls get into cosmetics so young nowadays!
ReplyDeleteGood one... Yes, it can be surprising how daughters can be so different from their Moms. My daughter for example is not girly at all, she dislikes pink and she enjoys picking up oversized clothes from the men's department. However, she is very much into art unlike me.
ReplyDeleteI'm not girly too. I do love fashion but I am not into make-up. My nieces are girly like her, though and they sure do love their make-up. -LYNNDEE
ReplyDeleteI ma not girly at all. My mom and sisters are definitely more girly compared to me. I just don't have that typical girl attitude. but I like who I am and I think that's what matters..!!
ReplyDeleteLoved this! I am like you I had no idea what a highlighter was! At least you have someone to teach you! I'll be lost forever.
ReplyDeleteAhaha, this my sister and I. I am not girly and bad at doing my makeup, but my sister is a makeup queen.
ReplyDeleteI love this! I think too many parents put pressure on trying to mold their child into a mini version of themselves rather than embracing their differences. I love that you recognize the ways you differ while also noticing the similarities, and clearly loving her for all of it. It's a beautiful example of a genuine mother/daughter relationship.
ReplyDeleteThis is how my sister and I are. She is into all the girly things and I cannot do it. I love her so much though!
ReplyDeleteSuch a strong bond between mothers and daughters...we are both into girly things and love it!
ReplyDeleteAwww, this was such a heartwarming post to read. It doesn't matter that you don't have the girly stuff in common, you have other things that make your relationship special, which others don't.
ReplyDeleteSuch a sweet post, the highlighter comment made me laugh!
ReplyDeleteSuch a sweet post. You're perfect the way you are even if you're not a girly :)
ReplyDeleteI like when a girl is girly. It's so cute to see that. I hope my girls will be the same!
ReplyDeleteYou both look so cute! I am in the same boat. My girl is so girl and I am not!
ReplyDeleteI totally get it. I pride myself on being all-terrain and my daughter has always been a Disney princess girl. I don't mind at all though, she's her own person, and she's also fearless and will try anything!
ReplyDeleteYou both compliment each other! She teaches you make-up & you teach her history, that's absolutely adorable!
ReplyDeletethis is us right now with my 4 year old....she is so cute and girly but also has a tomboy side....me, i'm a total tomboy!!!
ReplyDeleteIt was perfect the first time. I learn so much from you as well! Great post.
ReplyDeleteWe seem to live the same lifestyle and our daughters love makeup and dressing up. It is fun to do our nails together but I really do it for her.
ReplyDeleteThis is such a great post, I wasn't a girly girly at all. love that you guys share this
ReplyDeleteToo funny that you and your daughter are opposites! I wonder where she got the idea to be girly?
ReplyDeleteMine are too young to tell but I I hope they aren't SUPER girly! I like to look nice but I am not about to spend millions on every new fashion trend/ beauty product!
ReplyDeleteHa, that's so funny. I'd assume the same if my daughter said that. Kids need to learn to be clear as that could have meant either really.
ReplyDeleteI get you. There are few things that only Gen-Xs knows. And I think it's okay
ReplyDeleteThis is how it is in my house too. :) My youngest loves to try and fix my hair and she does a better job than I do lol.
ReplyDeleteWhen I was a kid, I was a tomboy. I also wear the same pair of sneakers for years and my daughter is the opposite. She loves shopping and dressing up. It is fun when I see a little bit of me pop out here and there.
ReplyDeleteOh so sweet. You both are learning from each other. I was a tomboy for a long time, and then boys showed up and things changed.
ReplyDeleteI have two daughters and neither of them are really girly. I'm sure that is coming though. One of them likes fake nails and makeup, but they don't wear them much. They're both preteens, so I'm sure the time is coming.
ReplyDeleteI love this! I'm very girly and my daughter is a nice mix. She loves makeup and nail polish but also loves to be outside, rock climb and get dirty!
ReplyDeleteI love this. I would have loved to have a daughter x
ReplyDeleteAww...she is such a beauty! I would love to have a girl, too. Thanks for sharing this post.
ReplyDeleteSuch a great bond. Different but still connected. No need for both of you to be alike. Lovely young lady!
ReplyDeleteI know my cousins are so different but they have an amazing bond. I love this post because it is so true
ReplyDeleteYes I am not into much makeup, but my girl who is 11 is already into makeup. I lvoe this post.
ReplyDeleteI can relate to this. I am definitely not into things like makeup, but my daughter sure is!
ReplyDeletemy daughter is more on the tom boy side and I am the girly one. I always want her to wear dresses and she wont lol
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