Tommy's first middle school dance is coming.
But he won't be going.
I hit on this in my Similarities And Differences On A Teenager With Autism post. I won't lie, I did press Tommy a bit to see if he'd go. I don't want him to think back to his teenage years when he's an adult and regret not going. But he's adamant. He doesn't want to be there and I will not force him.
He explained to me why he didn't want to go and gave me permission to make a blog post out of his reasons.
1. He's worried they'll play One Direction or Justin Bieber. He cannot stand their music.
2. He thinks the people he goes to school with are too crazy. He says they like to walk around with their pants hanging low. He wonders why they don't wear belts or purchase pants that fit properly.
3. He doesn't want the kids calling him "Bruh." It makes no sense to him as they are not related so technically he is not their "bruh." He says they also say things like "Yo homie dawg." For the longest time he thought they were calling each other dogs and didn't understand.
4. Girls make him nervous.
5. He'd rather play video games. (He has a YouTube channel where you can watch him play video games here. He also makes autism videos. You can subscribe to his channel here.)
6. He doesn't know what to say. "I'd probably just go talk to the teachers." He doesn't really talk to the kids at school.
7. Girls make him nervous.
8. He doesn't feel like dressing up. Dress shoes squeeze his feet. He's worried a tie will choke him.
Maybe he'll go to high school dances or maybe he won't. I guess we'll see.
Did you skip your school dances? If you have kids, did they go to theirs? I went to mine but mostly stood in a corner and talked with my friends. My shoes did squeeze my feet.