Friday, February 26, 2016

8 Reasons Why My Son Doesn't Want To Go To His First Middle School Dance

Tommy's first middle school dance is coming.

But he won't be going.

I hit on this in my Similarities And Differences On A Teenager With Autism post. I won't lie, I did press Tommy a bit to see if he'd go. I don't want him to think back to his teenage years when he's an adult and regret not going. But he's adamant. He doesn't want to be there and I will not force him.

He explained to me why he didn't want to go and gave me permission to make a blog post out of his reasons.







1. He's worried they'll play One Direction or Justin Bieber. He cannot stand their music.


2. He thinks the people he goes to school with are too crazy. He says they like to walk around with their pants hanging low. He wonders why they don't wear belts or purchase pants that fit properly.


3. He doesn't want the kids calling him "Bruh." It makes no sense to him as they are not related so technically he is not their "bruh." He says they also say things like "Yo homie dawg." For the longest time he thought they were calling each other dogs and didn't understand.


4. Girls make him nervous.


5. He'd rather play video games. (He has a YouTube channel where you can watch him play video games here. He also makes autism videos. You can subscribe to his channel here.)


6. He doesn't know what to say. "I'd probably just go talk to the teachers." He doesn't really talk to the kids at school.


7. Girls make him nervous.


8. He doesn't feel like dressing up. Dress shoes squeeze his feet. He's worried a tie will choke him.




Maybe he'll go to high school dances or maybe he won't. I guess we'll see.

Did you skip your school dances? If you have kids, did they go to theirs? I went to mine but mostly stood in a corner and talked with my friends. My shoes did squeeze my feet.

25 comments:

  1. I hope its ok as a mom of a teenage son, I laughed. Love the girls make him nervous :) And I think his reasons are bang on. Even though we homeschool my children are floored by the baggy pants (agree with belts, hello?!) and the nick names. They go to dances but usually sit on the sidelines, my son won't dance-he informs me that its dumb. My daughter will dance but only fast dances "thank you very much" (make sure you read those in the pre-teen snotty voice) lol Gotta love kids! Please let your son know he is not alone in these opinons =) great post!

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  2. dances always stressed me out. i would get huge social anxiety but i always went to them!

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    1. I went to a lot of mine too but I also had some anxiety.

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  3. Amen to #1. Tommy is one smart guy. I hate dress shoes too. Sounds like you will be having a pizza night in which would probably be more fun anyways!

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    1. Yes! And I'll dance with him to music we enjoy.

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  4. I wasn't allowed to go to dances in middle school. :( BUT when I got to high school I was allowed. I was a prom hopping queen :)
    I'm with you, I don't want my kids to look back on things and have regret. My daughter isn't into dances either, but she will go to school sporting events with her friends.
    xoxo

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  5. Love this! However, my son would be the one in the middle of the dance floor doing terrible dance moves and thinking he's the best thing since sliced bread.

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  6. Love this! However, my son would be the one in the middle of the dance floor doing terrible dance moves and thinking he's the best thing since sliced bread.

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    1. Haha, that's awesome! I also danced weird too.

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  7. It seems to me that both of my sons skipped most school dances, especially middle school. It was so much more fun to hang out at home with their friends who were also skipping the school dances.

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  8. If he likes to watch people play video games, he might like twitch.tv

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  9. I don't remember any high school dances, except proms, but I did go to a few middle school dances. They were.. interesting.
    I mean, I wore neon!
    I'm more like Tommy.

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  10. I hated dances in middle school. I was 5'8" in 6th grade, so no one wanted to dance with the tall girl. By high school I had a boyfriend (now husband) so we went to all of those. One of my boys loved dances, the other one didn't. I always let them decide.

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  11. Omgosh I never went to middle school dances because I was bullied so much back then. I wasn't even a fan of homecoming or prom.

    Question tho-do you think he'd go if a girl asked him to the dance?

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    1. No, I doubt he would. Girls terrify him. But then again...maybe? But then I'd worry the girl was just asking him to be mean? Some kids are assholes.

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  12. Those all sound like fine reasons not to go. You should be so proud you have a sensible boy! Odds are if he did go, he'd have a rotten time. I went to only one dance in my life (middle school) and hated it! I regretted wasting my time going and did not go to prom either. Dances are not for everyone. Kudos to you for not forcing him to go!

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  13. I skipped my school dances, except for prom. I went because I wanted to buy a gown :)

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  14. So very valid. I wouldn't want to go to a place where they played Justin Bieber either, haha. I did go to some of the dances when I was in junior high/high school, but I think I'd much rather have just stayed home and played video games, or just hung out with friends outside of em'.

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  15. Most people feel awkward about those kind of things, it's totally okay if you don't want to go, I won't go to my class reunion, never went, to each their own I suppose. ;)

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  16. I wouldn't push him. I could see having a similar conversation when he's in high school, but even then it needs to be his choice. Maybe there's a different experience that will become his favorite memory.

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  17. I went to all of my high school dances, and it was pretty awkward, but part of the growing up process too. I still remember having a blast with my friends the one year we all didn't have dates.

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  18. I love that he does his own thing and doesn't care...! And bless him, love how girls make him nervous...! Hell, guys still make me nervous!!

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