Monday, February 22, 2016

Similarities And Differences On A Teenager With Autism

My son Tommy has autism. He's 13. I've noticed that he's different from a lot of other kids his age, but there are also plenty of similarities as well.





1. All teenagers have a smell about them. Whether it's BO or too much cologne, some sort of scent is usually wafting from their bodies.


2. I don't have to worry about my son sneaking out at night. He's really big on rules. If I told him to be in by 10, he'll be back by 10.


3. His moods are all over the place like a typical teen. One minute he'll be smiling. The next he's all:



4. He won't risk smoking. Or getting drunk. He cannot believe anyone would do these things. "Don't they know their lungs will turn black? Why would anyone want to get drunk and stupid?" He's just as appalled over people doing drugs.


5. He spends hours on video games like many teenagers. When he emerges from his room, we sometimes start clapping. "You exist!" I'll sometimes shout.



6. He might not be driving when he's 16. He tends to panic and shut down when he gets overwhelmed so he might need more time to cope with these feelings before he gets behind the wheel.


7. I'm not sure when he'll have a girlfriend. He still struggles with understanding different emotions. He misses social cues. If a girl that liked him was sarcastic, he wouldn't get it. I have faith that there is a girl out there for him though.


8. He's not interested in sports. He never has been. He tried track in fifth grade and wasn't a fan. He's not exactly coordinated. He tries hard, but playing catch with him is tricky as he can't really catch the ball or throw it. He'll try to be polite if Tom or another man in the family offers, but you can tell he's not really enjoying himself. Football has always bored him. "This looks dumb," he once told me when he saw a game on TV.


9. He probably won't be going to any school dances. There's one coming up and I asked if he wanted to go. He was like this:



10. He doesn't walk around with earbuds in his ears all the time. He cannot stand things in his ears and he doesn't care to listen to music at all hours of the day.


11. He eats like most teenagers. He never seems to be full. I once watched as he ate a footlong sub from Subway in five minutes. And he was still hungry. However, his diet isn't like a lot of teenagers: he doesn't like soda. It's too "spicy" for him. He doesn't like chewy candy. He freaks if you put cheese on his burger. He'd live on rolls if I allowed it.


12. He hates wearing shorts. He's noticed that a lot of boys his age wear shorts--even if it's freezing. He doesn't comprehend this. If it's below 72 degrees he must be in a long-sleeved shirt. If it's above 72 degrees, he'll wear a short-sleeve shirt and sometimes I can get him in shorts, but he's not a fan. He also hates wearing flip flops. Even if we're going to the pool, he prefers to be in socks and shoes. When we go to the beach I can get him in flip flops but only because he can't stand the sand stuck in the socks.



Honestly, I'm happy he might not ever be like the "typical" teenager. He is who he is.




He's Tommy.

23 comments:

  1. He is a pretty awesome teenager to me! :)

    ReplyDelete
  2. Aw what a sweet boy. Having a rule follower has it's perks!

    ReplyDelete
  3. Pretty awesome, though.
    The smell thing. I wonder if that's for boys and girls? I guess we'll find out one day!
    And I don't like soda either. It hurts my throat. I have some sensory stuff myself, or I did as a kid.
    There is certainly a girl (or more than one) out there for this kid.

    ReplyDelete
  4. He sounds a lot like my son. Be very glad about the not ready to drive thing. Teaching teens to drive is not an experience you are ever, ever, ready for. He'll find a girl that strikes his fancy when he's ready. She'll just have to like him for exactly who he is.

    ReplyDelete
  5. What a great post! And what is it about teenagers and their smell?! Haha

    ReplyDelete
  6. He seems like an awesome kid!! And he will eventually get into the dating world, and who cares if that isn't until college! High school is enough pressure as it is to worry about dances and dating. xxxoo

    ReplyDelete
  7. My middle son calls soda "spicy" too. He doesn't like any of it.

    The teen years--- I'm scared that we're almost there!

    ReplyDelete
  8. He's pretty dang awesome! My boy won't be a typical teen either, but I am ok with that.

    ReplyDelete
  9. He's pretty dang awesome! My boy won't be a typical teen either, but I am ok with that.

    ReplyDelete
  10. Tommy sounds pretty cool to me PLUS he's wearing a BA shirt that I'd love to have in my collection. :)
    I was just talking to a mom this morning with a son who is on the spectrum and she's having issues with the school keeping to his IEP. I could tell she needed someone to talk to this morning and I was there to hear her out, she told me about her concerns, she's a bit fearful of junior high and other kids. Tommy is in junior high (right?) and he seems to be doing AWESOME.
    Thanks for sharing with us at #MMBH, pinning this. :)
    XOXO

    ReplyDelete
  11. My husband has Aspergers. He doesn't get sarcasm, or hints, for that matter. I've had to learn that I can't just drop a hint and expect him to pick up on it. If I wanted roses for Valentine's Day, for example, I'd have to say "Dear, you need to buy me a dozen roses for Valentine's Day."

    If you raise a decent young man, someone out there will love his honesty and other good traits.

    ReplyDelete
  12. He's awesome and smart too!! He needs to tell all other teenagers to not get drunk and do stupid things!! And school dances are over-rated.. I just remember them being all drama and not really that much fun.

    ReplyDelete
  13. I dated a guy over the summer whose son is Autistic. He liked and disliked the same things as your son. I am with Tommy on the smoking and dances. I have never smoked. I was a swimmer in high school and valued my lungs.

    ReplyDelete
  14. He sounds like a pretty cool kid. I really enjoyed reading this.

    ReplyDelete
  15. I can't believe how much he's seemed to grow as I've read your blog! My girls think soda is too spicy too.

    ReplyDelete
  16. Yep, sounds like a typical teenager to me! My 16 year old nephew has autism, and he and Tommy have a lot in common. Except the shorts - my nephew wears shorts almost every day - and it's cold here!

    ReplyDelete
  17. Great post! I've noticed with my own teenager, that I spent her elementary years praying she would fit in, but now I'm high school I'm thankful that she doesn't fit in so much! Sounds like you've done a fantastic job raising him.

    ReplyDelete
  18. I love this! Drew is only 9 but he told me that he won't have to be reminded to wear deodorant when the time comes...lol He also is very against smoking.

    ReplyDelete
  19. He sounds like a great teenager.

    ReplyDelete
  20. I love this post because I love hearing the things mommas love and notice about their kids. Sometimes I think that we just memorize them when they are young because their communication is spotty and we have to know them inside out just to function, but your writing shows how much the years only increase how fun it is to get to know our kiddos and what makes them tick :)

    ReplyDelete
  21. loved this! he sounds like a great kid. and sports are totally dumb, hehe.

    ReplyDelete
  22. Your Tommy sounds like a wonderful kid! I have a 16-year-old with Asperger's, and he shares a lot of the characteristics you mentioned. Truth be told, my special needs 16-year-old is a LOT easier to deal with than my typical 15-year-old...so there's that, LOL! But all kids are great if we appreciate them for who they are!

    ReplyDelete

Thanks for the comment!

Share This

 
Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...