Monday, August 15, 2016
Why I Won't Co-Sleep
"I wanna sleep with you, Mommy."
"Well, I want to weight 20 pounds less but I like food too much and it's not going to happen. We don't always get what we want."
I was always blunt with my kids when they asked to sleep with me. My son Tommy never really had much interest. He was the easiest baby and was in his crib the first night he was home. He always understood that his room was where he'd sleep.
But then I had my daughter Natalie. And she was NOT an easy baby. She'd shriek if someone tried to set her down in her crib.
For the first two months of her life, someone had to be holding her or else she would not sleep. So I shouldn't have been surprised when she wanted to sleep in my bed. (I say MY bed, but I do share it with my husband..)
There are reasons why I never co-slept:
1. I like my space. I want to be able to stretch out in my area and not have to worry about a kid.
2. My daughter sleeps like this.
3. I'd be kicked throughout the night. I know because I had to share a bed with Natalie when we were at Disney World, and it was horrible. I also let her sleep with me ONCE when her daddy was deployed because I felt bad and I vowed never again.
4. I want to spend time with my husband. Alone. I don't want to have to keep my voice down because a kid is sleeping. I don't want to have to censor myself because a child is nearby. There has to be a place where I can be myself.
5. I have enough trouble sharing the bed with my husband so I can't imagine someone else in it. Seriously. My husband can snore, and it drives me up the wall. If we were rich, we might actually have our own bedrooms.
6. I like my space. Oh. I already said that. But I do. Very much.
7. Natalie needs to learn that her room is there for a reason. We paid $400 for a bed and more for sheets. That's where she belongs at night.
I know some people co-sleep and love it. But I am not one of those people. Some might argue that I'll regret not spending that time with her and I completely disagree. I won't miss getting kicked at night. I won't miss getting shoved off the bed. I spend time with my daughter in other ways. We shop together. We see movies. We go out to eat often.
But we do not share a bed. And that's okay.
Do you co-sleep? Or if you don't have kids, do you let your pets on your bed? We don't allow that either.