Sunday, January 13, 2019

Sometimes I Miss The Frozen Days






Middle School.


It can be like another world. There are cliques. Fights. Actual fights with fists involved. My daughter started, and I've noticed many changes. In how I parent. In how my daughter behaves.


Suddenly, all sorts of worries are popping up.


Sometimes I miss the Frozen days.



How much makeup is too much?


Should I let her get that app or not?


How often do I need to check her texts?


Is that shirt appropriate?


Maybe I need to start the sex talk now. My daughter says there's an eighth grader pregnant at her school.


Sometimes I miss the Frozen days.




I see her stressed about math. I send her to tutoring. She goes, but she's miserable.


The mood swings. Oh, the mood swings. One minute she's laughing. The next, she's scowling and telling me things like, "I was in a good mood before you started talking." Do I punish her for the mood swings?


Friendships are changing. One day she's okay with one girl. The next she's fighting with the same one. Everyone has the mood swings, it seems.


Do I let her toss out clothes from her closet because she deems them too childish even though she wore them last year?


How far do I let her go in the neighborhood? Do I let her walk down to the Circle K on her own?


Sometimes I miss the Frozen days.





Don't get me wrong, I'm proud to watch her grow.


It's nice to be able to watch movies with her that I enjoyed when I was a tween. I don't have to sit through Barbie or My Little Pony movies anymore.


I can take her out to real restaurants, actual restaurants, and not have to worry about her getting impatient.


I'm eager to see the woman she will become. Sometimes I see flashes of it.


But sometimes?


I miss the Frozen days.







39 comments:

  1. Oh wow, I don't have kids, but I can imagine in this day and age, the stress of being a parent. I think you're doing a great job though :)

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  2. Thanks for sharing such a good article and for informative things. Your articles are really amazing and I got a lot of information and guidance reading them.

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  3. This is such a lovely blog with lovely photos. You are very inspiring.

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  4. I can imagine it's difficult to adjust to change, especially when it comes so fast during teenage years. But I also think that it's important to always talk to your daughter and give her freedom and space, even if that means just letting her cycle to the supermarket or allowing her to use lip gloss.

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  5. Well written. But an 8th grader pregnant?!? Gabbie's in 8th grade!!

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  6. I totally get this. When the kids hit the tween and teen years, it's an emotional punch in the gut. Everything seems to go from sweet and innocent to full of worries and angst overnight.

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  7. Wow, so insightful! I have 2 little ones at home and I haven't even thought about these days yet. Makes me realize I need to slow down and appreciate these Frozen days before they are gone. Thank you for sharing these words!

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  8. I think my kids are growing up WAY too fast! I miss the days like the Frozen days myself. I miss how innocent they are and how much they love life without worrying about what other people think!

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  9. Middle school is tough! There's so many decisions to make - letting go some but not too much can be hard. Thankfully, they don't stay in middle school forever. I sometimes miss those Frozen days too.

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  10. I can totally relate. I love the perks of having teens. However, I do miss them being smaller as well.

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  11. *tears* Hubby and I dropped our kid off at college y'day and as he walked away I thought of that little baby with the huge smile. It's strange coming home walking past his room without him being there but Spring Break will soon be here.

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  12. My little granddaughter loves Frozen. She even wants a Frozen cake for her birthday coming up. She will out grow it I realize but for now we are enjoying everything Frozen.

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  13. Oh man, an 8th grader pregnant.. Yeah, I guess it would be time for the talk. I remember growing up there was a girl pregnant in middle school. She ended up having 4 kids before graduating high school.

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  14. Reading about an 8th grader pregnant, reminded me of Lorelai Gilmore! ;) Although being pregnant at an early age isn't exemplary! But mother-daughter relationship is truly adorable in the show! PS I love your captures.

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  15. Kids growing up is a fact and unavoidable. Every stage is a growing time for them and a learning experience for us. My daughter is driving and about to go to college so good bye Frozen times.

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  16. Great article. Although I'm not yet a parent, I am the eldest of 3 with a large age gap between my siblings and I - it was always a 'mama hen' relationship I had with them. Now my brother is thinking of university and my sister is about to start high school and they are growing so quickly, sometimes I just was to pause it. They're great kids but I'm in tune enough to know of what goes on in their surroundings and the truth is, you could give advice and guide but at the end of the day, they will make their decisions and make their mistakes - it's part of the process.

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  17. I wish we could freeze time but sadly we can't that is one reason I can't have another baby they grow so fast. Speaking of Frozen do you know it's coming back out again I had no idea

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  18. My almost 6 year old is also starting to grow up too fast for me that. I am having a hard time keeping up. I wish it could be slower at times.

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  19. Trust me I understand as my son turned 11 in December and everything is changing and the Mood Swings are horrible. Most days I don't want to come out of my room because I know a fight of some kind will happen.

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  20. My oldest is only 5, but I know they grow up so fast! I am not ready for her to be big! I am totally not ready for a teenager

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  21. My youngest is 10 and I feel the same way. I am glad that I have a granddaughter to help me with my baby fixes.

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  22. I look back at those days all the time too. It's crazy to see my oldest, at 13, acting like a grown up when it seems like just yesterday she was twirling around the house in her princess dress.

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  23. I can't imagine how difficult and yet amazing it is to see your child grow. I would hate to have to go through all those emotions again that you get hit with at this point in your life though.

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  24. It's so amazing and so hard watching them grow!

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  25. I can totally relate to this. My daughter is the same age and has fledged to middle school. Things have changed so much, and even for her younger sibling who seems to grow up faster having an older sister.

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  26. I don't have kids but I can relate through my nieces and nephews. Middle school is HARD!!

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  27. Oh, I understand what are you talking about. I have the same questions. I think we need to let them go step by step...

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  28. My daughter is 13 but not into make ups. She is however very self conscious of what she wears.

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  29. I feel as though I will be writing something similar to this in time to come. They really do grow up so fast dont they? Beautifully written.

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  30. I can totally, totally relate! My niece just turned 13 and sometimes I think back on when she just wanted to be Elsa.

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  31. This is such a sweet post. It's so hard watching your kids grow up, but it is also exciting.

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  32. I could really relate to this as well. I remember when my girls first got in to Frozen. It lasted for a long time too. Now they just don't care so much about it anymore.

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  33. Your daughter is so cute on her Frozen costumer. I actually watch that movie maybe 100 times and I wont get tired of it.

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  34. I can imagine how it feels to see them grow up, becoming more mature and turning into adults. They need to learn so much along the way and parents are key to that learning experience. Everything is so easy when they are tiny!

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  35. Very well written and oh so very accurate. The Trio were at that stage just yesterday, and today they parent The Grands. Amazing how quickly time passes...

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  36. I understand how you feel. I have a sister who is now in college but I miss it when she wasn't all moody and was so positive when she was little.

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  37. Kids loved the Frozen Movie, and the characters also! The most I like is the song titled "Let it go" it really reminds me of the Frozen!

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  38. Teens are a difficult time to be in. Both for the kids and for the parents. ��

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  39. Yes to this!!! My sweet little 'I want to snuggle' boy now at times, has become my 'why don't you let me get on Xbox live like everyone else?!?' kiddo. I can relate!

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