Sunday, January 13, 2019

Sometimes I Miss The Frozen Days






Middle School.


It can be like another world. There are cliques. Fights. Actual fights with fists involved. My daughter started, and I've noticed many changes. In how I parent. In how my daughter behaves.


Suddenly, all sorts of worries are popping up.


Sometimes I miss the Frozen days.



How much makeup is too much?


Should I let her get that app or not?


How often do I need to check her texts?


Is that shirt appropriate?


Maybe I need to start the sex talk now. My daughter says there's an eighth grader pregnant at her school.


Sometimes I miss the Frozen days.




I see her stressed about math. I send her to tutoring. She goes, but she's miserable.


The mood swings. Oh, the mood swings. One minute she's laughing. The next, she's scowling and telling me things like, "I was in a good mood before you started talking." Do I punish her for the mood swings?


Friendships are changing. One day she's okay with one girl. The next she's fighting with the same one. Everyone has the mood swings, it seems.


Do I let her toss out clothes from her closet because she deems them too childish even though she wore them last year?


How far do I let her go in the neighborhood? Do I let her walk down to the Circle K on her own?


Sometimes I miss the Frozen days.





Don't get me wrong, I'm proud to watch her grow.


It's nice to be able to watch movies with her that I enjoyed when I was a tween. I don't have to sit through Barbie or My Little Pony movies anymore.


I can take her out to real restaurants, actual restaurants, and not have to worry about her getting impatient.


I'm eager to see the woman she will become. Sometimes I see flashes of it.


But sometimes?


I miss the Frozen days.







77 comments:

  1. Oh wow, I don't have kids, but I can imagine in this day and age, the stress of being a parent. I think you're doing a great job though :)

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  2. Thanks for sharing such a good article and for informative things. Your articles are really amazing and I got a lot of information and guidance reading them.

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  3. This is such a lovely blog with lovely photos. You are very inspiring.

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  4. I can imagine it's difficult to adjust to change, especially when it comes so fast during teenage years. But I also think that it's important to always talk to your daughter and give her freedom and space, even if that means just letting her cycle to the supermarket or allowing her to use lip gloss.

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  5. Well written. But an 8th grader pregnant?!? Gabbie's in 8th grade!!

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  6. I totally get this. When the kids hit the tween and teen years, it's an emotional punch in the gut. Everything seems to go from sweet and innocent to full of worries and angst overnight.

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  7. Wow, so insightful! I have 2 little ones at home and I haven't even thought about these days yet. Makes me realize I need to slow down and appreciate these Frozen days before they are gone. Thank you for sharing these words!

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  8. I think my kids are growing up WAY too fast! I miss the days like the Frozen days myself. I miss how innocent they are and how much they love life without worrying about what other people think!

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  9. Middle school is tough! There's so many decisions to make - letting go some but not too much can be hard. Thankfully, they don't stay in middle school forever. I sometimes miss those Frozen days too.

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  10. I can totally relate. I love the perks of having teens. However, I do miss them being smaller as well.

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  11. *tears* Hubby and I dropped our kid off at college y'day and as he walked away I thought of that little baby with the huge smile. It's strange coming home walking past his room without him being there but Spring Break will soon be here.

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  12. My little granddaughter loves Frozen. She even wants a Frozen cake for her birthday coming up. She will out grow it I realize but for now we are enjoying everything Frozen.

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  13. Oh man, an 8th grader pregnant.. Yeah, I guess it would be time for the talk. I remember growing up there was a girl pregnant in middle school. She ended up having 4 kids before graduating high school.

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  14. Reading about an 8th grader pregnant, reminded me of Lorelai Gilmore! ;) Although being pregnant at an early age isn't exemplary! But mother-daughter relationship is truly adorable in the show! PS I love your captures.

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  15. Kids growing up is a fact and unavoidable. Every stage is a growing time for them and a learning experience for us. My daughter is driving and about to go to college so good bye Frozen times.

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  16. Great article. Although I'm not yet a parent, I am the eldest of 3 with a large age gap between my siblings and I - it was always a 'mama hen' relationship I had with them. Now my brother is thinking of university and my sister is about to start high school and they are growing so quickly, sometimes I just was to pause it. They're great kids but I'm in tune enough to know of what goes on in their surroundings and the truth is, you could give advice and guide but at the end of the day, they will make their decisions and make their mistakes - it's part of the process.

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  17. I wish we could freeze time but sadly we can't that is one reason I can't have another baby they grow so fast. Speaking of Frozen do you know it's coming back out again I had no idea

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  18. My almost 6 year old is also starting to grow up too fast for me that. I am having a hard time keeping up. I wish it could be slower at times.

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  19. Trust me I understand as my son turned 11 in December and everything is changing and the Mood Swings are horrible. Most days I don't want to come out of my room because I know a fight of some kind will happen.

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  20. My oldest is only 5, but I know they grow up so fast! I am not ready for her to be big! I am totally not ready for a teenager

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  21. My youngest is 10 and I feel the same way. I am glad that I have a granddaughter to help me with my baby fixes.

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  22. I look back at those days all the time too. It's crazy to see my oldest, at 13, acting like a grown up when it seems like just yesterday she was twirling around the house in her princess dress.

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  23. I can't imagine how difficult and yet amazing it is to see your child grow. I would hate to have to go through all those emotions again that you get hit with at this point in your life though.

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  24. It's so amazing and so hard watching them grow!

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  25. I can totally relate to this. My daughter is the same age and has fledged to middle school. Things have changed so much, and even for her younger sibling who seems to grow up faster having an older sister.

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  26. I don't have kids but I can relate through my nieces and nephews. Middle school is HARD!!

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  27. Oh, I understand what are you talking about. I have the same questions. I think we need to let them go step by step...

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  28. My daughter is 13 but not into make ups. She is however very self conscious of what she wears.

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  29. I feel as though I will be writing something similar to this in time to come. They really do grow up so fast dont they? Beautifully written.

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  30. I can totally, totally relate! My niece just turned 13 and sometimes I think back on when she just wanted to be Elsa.

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  31. This is such a sweet post. It's so hard watching your kids grow up, but it is also exciting.

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  32. I could really relate to this as well. I remember when my girls first got in to Frozen. It lasted for a long time too. Now they just don't care so much about it anymore.

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  33. Your daughter is so cute on her Frozen costumer. I actually watch that movie maybe 100 times and I wont get tired of it.

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  34. I can imagine how it feels to see them grow up, becoming more mature and turning into adults. They need to learn so much along the way and parents are key to that learning experience. Everything is so easy when they are tiny!

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  35. Very well written and oh so very accurate. The Trio were at that stage just yesterday, and today they parent The Grands. Amazing how quickly time passes...

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  36. I understand how you feel. I have a sister who is now in college but I miss it when she wasn't all moody and was so positive when she was little.

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  37. Kids loved the Frozen Movie, and the characters also! The most I like is the song titled "Let it go" it really reminds me of the Frozen!

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  38. Teens are a difficult time to be in. Both for the kids and for the parents. ��

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  39. Yes to this!!! My sweet little 'I want to snuggle' boy now at times, has become my 'why don't you let me get on Xbox live like everyone else?!?' kiddo. I can relate!

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  40. Oh man, Shelby is only 7 (going on 17), but I can already see these days slipping away! She still dresses up, but her sass laugh level is going up too!

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  41. WoW! those donuts look deliscious. I will definitely work on creating a healthier version and share it on blog. Creating guilt free recipes is my specialty ;)

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  42. My niece is 10 and we are seeing signs of teenage years kicking in early. I told her mom to appreicate her childhood wonder now because the cute days and trips to Disney will be gone!

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  43. Though I'm not a parent myself, I have the same feeling about my god children - watching them grow is crazy! So much has changed in such a short space of time :( x

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  44. What’s funny, is that my 5 year old is like all of these phases in one. She’s still into princesses, but also into makeup and glitter and looking cute etc

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  45. Girl, I know what you mean. My son is 40 years old and I think more and more of the days when he would sit in the kitchen with me while I cooked and he would ask questions over and over. And I'm thinking, would he just stop talking for a bit. I feel bad and good at the same time. I miss the baby days.

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  46. I'm not a mom, but I'm a daughter and sometimes I see that veil of melancholy and nostalgia in my gaze ... it's sweet ...

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  47. I couldn't agree with you more! I love all the age groups and working through the issues, but those certainly were simpler days!

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  48. This is such a great post. The world our kids live in as they get older doesn't get any easier. Our girls are still somewhat in that Frozen stage, and I want to be prepared for when it's gone.

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  49. Oh Yes, I know what you mean! My daughter turns 7 this weekend and she is still little but on the other hand so big. It's hard when they grow up.

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  50. Oh man, a pregnant 8th graded? That's insane. This was wonderfully written, thanks for sharing.

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  51. This post hits a nerve because my daughter is in college now and it was so much easier when she wore princess dressup clothes. I hope it gets a little easier as the months go on.

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  52. I really miss this too. My nieces went through the phase and they loved everything about frozen.

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  53. Oh, I can relate! Although mine might be called The Beauty days. Sigh, it goes by far too fast.

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  54. I hear you... we are starting to see the first bits of teenaging in our 7-year old..... I don't even know how that's possible, but it's definitely there. And it already makes me long for those calmer toddler days!!!

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  55. We just watched Frozen with the kids for the first time this week. Such a great film. Excited about part 2.

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  56. I can totally relate as a mother of 5. I miss the frozen days as well.

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  57. I can't imagine what it is like watching a child grow up I am sure it all happens too fast. Are you going to watch the second Frozen though.

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  58. My daughter has literally counted down the hours until Frozen II is released even though I told her we have to wait til Saturday.

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  59. Parenting a middle schooler is so much harder than it should be! I completely understand why you miss the Frozen Days.

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  60. I will be writing something like this up before I know it, I can just feel it. trying to remember to cherish this age!

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  61. It must be difficult to watch your kids grow up. However, you've got some really beautiful memories to come back to. :)

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  62. Oh, I can't even imagine how hard it is nowadays with kids. I don't have kids yet, but I am definitely scared :)

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  63. I miss those Frozen days already! I understand what are you talking about!

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  64. This is the one the my niece looking for the frozen costume. She gonna like this for sure.

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  65. My daughters are not really in to Frozen anymore either. I can see how you could miss it, because I do as well.

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  66. They grow up fast don't them lol...I loved every minute of my daughter's fascination with Frozen, these days are gone lol...

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  67. Kids grow up so quickly. As of today I officially have a 10 year old and I'm like where did the time go. It's nice watching the kids grow into their own people, but it also makes me a little sad as well.

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  68. I can only imagine that the teen years can be challenging. I would miss the Frozen days too.

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  69. Aaaww this is so beautiful. Time goes by so fast. I look back and I miss a lot of things. Memories are our best allies. I certainly understand how you feel.

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  70. Yes time goes fast.My daughter who was crazy Elsa fan now she doesn't even want to see the movie Frozen 2. Also tons of frozen themed wardrobes she doesn't even want to wear any more. she is only 10 going to be 11. I can understand that.

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  71. I feel the same about my son. He is in his final year of middle school. Granted, he was never into frozen, but So many similar feelings.

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  72. My daughter really enjoyed the frozen movie. I agree with you kids grow up fast! I can't keep up!

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  73. That is such sweet post. and very sincere. I do think there is an age for kids when things are more simple. Growing a kid is never easy I think. I also think you 'miss frozen days' because you realize how soon she will be a grownup and will leave you to build her own life.

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  74. She looks like a little cute loving princess. Kids grow up so fast it makes me sad. She looks absolutely beautiful like her mom.

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  75. Oh my, this is so lovely. One of the cutest photos I ahve ever seen today. My girls love Frozen too and we are too excited to watch Froxen II.

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  76. I have dinosaurs time ���� my son sometimes pretend he is one of them. I hope it will last for a while. Im not ready yet to think about all those dangerous things waiting for him

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