Monday, January 23, 2017

Hey, It's Okay

I got this idea from Glamour magazine. You can link up any day of the week. All you have to do is make a list of what you're okay about. Simple!

Hey, It's Okay....

...To have watched the Lifetime movie version of Beaches and have been appalled. It was terrible. Awful. Watch the original from the 80s. The only plus of this one was Idina Menzel. Her voice is gorgeous.

...To be happy that Grey's Anatomy, Scandal, and How To Get Away With Murder return this week! I'll have to record them because Tom thinks they are all "nonsense."

...To have found Girl Scouts and bought Thin Mints and the new S'mores cookies. So good! I'll be buying more too.

...To appreciate all the comments I received on my I'm A Butthole Wife (Sometimes.) I'm glad I'm not the only butthole out there. (Some didn't like that they were called a butthole if they nagged, and I apologize for that. It's tongue and cheek for me and not a word I take too seriously.)

...To have written a post over at The Military Mom and Wife about how you should FaceTime your deployed spouse here. Hint? Don't talk about inappropriate things! Someone could be listening in.

...To be sharing how to make EASY Unicorn Hot Chocolate on Thursday. I'm all about the easy and I know there have to be others out there who prefer to be in and out of the kitchen as fast as they can.

Sunday, January 22, 2017

I'm A Butthole Wife (Sometimes)

Maybe you've seen that post floating around the Internet. You know, the one where a woman suggests that you not be a butthole wife ? I understood where she was coming from. I did. And maybe one reason why it didn't resonate with me is because I'm not religious. I don't believe in submitting to a man or that he's the head of the house. I don't serve anyone.

Sometimes I am a butthole wife.

Look, when I was first married, I was 19. There's a reason why it's suggested that people not marry until they are older because it was tough. There were lots of arguments. And yes, I would get annoyed with him for little things. He'd leave his dirty socks around the house and I'd complain. In the Stop Being A Butthole Wife post, it hints that this shouldn't bother me. That I should be grateful that he'd rather spend time with me than pick up his socks. He picked people over dirty socks. Yay me!

No. I'm sorry, but no. He's a grown man with hands. Socks belong in the hamper. It's not rocket science. So I would complain, and once I did this:

Was it immature. 100% yes.

But guess what? Eventually my husband got it.

Some people might say, "Well, do you think you're perfect?" Nope. My husband would nag me about things too and I'd work hard to change. For example, he'd ask why I kept making pot roast when I knew he hated it. I enjoyed it, so I'd make it every other week. But when he spoke up, I started making it once every few months.

Obviously you shouldn't spend most of your marriage whining about little things. But if something bothers you, you should feel comfortable enough to bring it up. If you expect everything to be perfect all the time, well, sorry, it's not how life works. Arguments have helped my husband and I improve our marriage. Again, I get where the woman was coming from, and it turns out, her husband unfortunately passed away. If my husband passed away, would I regret having spoken up about the dirty socks?

I don't think so. I'd have been happy that he respected me enough to change something small that irked me.

We've been married for sixteen years now, so the fact that I'm a butthole wife (sometimes)?

Works for us.

Thursday, January 19, 2017

Do People Write Thank You Letters Anymore?

I still write thank you letters. I make my kids write thank you letters when someone takes the time to mail them something. But I'm finding a lot of people don't do this anymore.

I personally love when I get mail that isn't a bill. There's something special about a handwritten note. Plus, it tells the person you really appreciate what they've sent. A text is so impersonal.

Sometimes my daughter argues when I tell her to write a thank you letter. But I remind her that she shouldn't be ungrateful. She'll say she can tell the person over the phone that she's appreciative. But I insist on a thank you note. I remember grumbling when I had to write them as a kid. But I'm glad I had to write them and I hope Natalie will feel the same when she's older. You're taking a brief moment out of your day to make someone else smile.

I don't just send thank you letters. Sometimes I send "thinking of you letters." I've kept a lot of letters people have sent me over the years. They are amazing memories. Some of my favorites are from my Nana Jo. She's 95 now and I appreciate all the advice she's given me over the years. I also have letters that my friends and I wrote to each other. Letters that my husband sent me when he was in basic training. On a TDY. Deployed They all mean the world to me.

So how about it? Will you be mailing a card? If someone has mailed you something, consider sending them a thank you card. They'll appreciate it.

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