Monday, May 2, 2016

What I Want For Mother's Day

Mother's Day is Sunday! My husband has already asked what I want. Really, he doesn't have to get me a thing seeing as I'm not HIS mother...but since he asked...

1. To be able to spend as long as my husband does in the bathroom.

2. Lots of books. Books keep me sane. But I usually have a cat or a kid wanting something when I read.

3. Chocolate. It also keeps me sane. My daughter agrees, but sometimes she steals my chocolate.

4. Funny shirts like this.

5. This Breaking Bad mat. We might have to get it for the new house. (You can get one here!)

6. This decal for my car because I tend to correct people when they use the wrong your. So many grown adults will put your welcome. (You can buy it on Etsy here.)

Honestly, what I really want is for the home inspection to go well for the house we just bought. 

What do you want for Mother's Day? Or if you aren't a parent, what do you want? 

Friday, April 29, 2016

When Being A Military Family Gets Tough

I usually write upbeat posts about being in the military because for the most part, I love this life. I know my military kids will be stronger because of it. I know my kids will get to experience so many different things that other kids never will.

However, there are definitely a lot of sad aspects to being with someone in the military. Here are some things we've gone through that have squeezed my heart.

1. "Why does Clara get to have her daddy all the time?"  

My daughter once asked this. She goes to school with kids who aren't part of military life and when she was really little, she didn't understand why some daddies were always around and why hers had to go away so much.

2. Sometimes the fights aren't nice.

I once said to Tom in a sarcastic way, "It sure is awesome raising these kids alone most of the time," when I found out he was deploying again. I apologized soon after, but sometimes this life can cause excess stress.

3. It's difficult to plan.

Every time we've planned a vacation, it always gets ruined by a deployment. Tom was supposed to be able to come to Disney World--he even got the go ahead that he'd be good to go so I booked tickets--and then he was told, oops, sorry, we need you to deploy.

4. You hear people bashing the military at times and it takes all your strength not to throw your shoe at them.

They don't get it. They'll never get it. I once heard a man ranting about how the military got a discount and he, as a plumber, did not. Well sorry dude, risk your life for your country and maybe you'll get a damn discount.

5. "Wait Daddy! Say goodbye! Are you leaving for a long time again?"

After Tom got back from being in Korea for a year, Natalie was afraid whenever he'd leave the house. She assumed he'd be gone for months and months. Watching your little girl chase her daddy out to the driveway and attach herself to his leg? It stings.

6. PCSing can be heartbreaking, especially if you have friends.

I hate saying goodbye to great people. But at the same time, I know I can stay in contact with them via Facebook. It is sad when your kids cry and say, "But what if I can't make new friends at the new base?" However, each time my kids have been able to meet new people fairly quickly. Well. My daughter can. She talks to everyone. My son has autism so he's quiet.

7. Getting used to a whole new base is tricky.

..especially if you get lost easily, as I do. See, when you're at a place for a few years you get to know the stores around you. The workers become your friends. They know exactly how you like your drink prepared or what sort of items you're looking for when you enter their store. When you arrive at a new base, you have to find "your" people all over again. You have to find all your favorite stores. This all eventually happens, but usually by the time you find your groove it's time to move again.

8. Yay! Let's pack and unpack all over again.

I hate PCSing only because we have a lot of stuff. I could get rid of said stuff, but I love my stuff. So packing up can take a bit. Unpacking takes even longer. Living out of boxes is never any fun. And if you don't know where you'll be living when you arrive at the new base? It can get chaotic. You can be stuck in a hotel for over a month and when you have kids, it's rough.

Yes, military life can have it's downs. But it mostly has ups. I find the good outweighs the bad. I'll always love this life and when we go through difficult times?

Well, there's chocolate.

Thursday, April 28, 2016

5 Thoughts I've Had While Looking For A House

We're PCSing. Or moving, for you non-military folks. We've been searching for a house and it can be stressful. Our realtor has been awesome though and has been doing Facetime walk throughs so we can see before we get there. My mother has also met up with him to give her opinion. We've seen a number of homes at this point and I've had the following thoughts as we've seen them.

1. Uh. Maybe bring your dog with you.

There were times when our realtor couldn't show us the backyard due to dogs. Buyers WANT to see the backyard. So take Fido away from the home.

2. What were you thinking going with that color?

Some people decide on odd paint schemes. I know it's personal preference, but one house we saw was painted a rather horrendous yellow. I had to wonder who decided on that? Did someone really like the color yellow? Did they want their house to go with the street name (Daffodil Way) and if so, why didn't they go with a nicer yellow?

3. If your flooring looks whack, most people won't like the house.

Or maybe we're just picky. But there were bubbles in the flooring of some homes and we don't have the patience to fix it. Plus the price point was high. You'd think if you had bubble floors, you'd lower the price some.

4. Crammed closets aren't welcoming.

I get that when people put their houses on the market that they are in the process of moving. But man, take all the clutter out. If the realtor opens a door and it looks like things will topple over, it frightens the buyers. Trust me, I have A LOT of stuff, but I don't want to see a lot of stuff when I'm looking for a home to buy.

5. The hell? Why is the toilet in the kitchen?

There was one house where the bathroom door was right in the kitchen area. So I guess if you had bad Mexican food, you could rush in there. Personally I don't want to hear people pooing while I'm cooking.

We hope we find a home we like soon, so there will be more posts about that in the future.

Did you find buying a home stressful? Did you also curse a lot and find yourself turning to chocolate and booze?

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