Monday, April 11, 2016

This Is Tommy (A Story Of A Boy With Autism)







This is Tommy.



When he was small, he'd make piles of shoes around the house.



This is Tommy.



He used to have a string that he named Bing. Bing went everywhere with him for a while.


This is Tommy.


He loved to stack his Mega Bloks as well as staking the shoes. If they fell over, he'd flip out.



This is Tommy.



I knew from the very beginning that he was going to be incredible. I could see it in his expression. I used to think, "Why would I be given a child with special needs when I was only a child myself?" (I had him at nineteen.) But I was given Tommy for a reason. I know I was.



This is Tommy.




When he started Kindergarten, he was overwhelmed and had many meltdowns. I received phone calls almost daily about them.


This is Tommy.


An IEP is what helped him calm down in school. When teachers knew how to help him, things went better. He still has issues, but not as many as before.



This is Tommy.



Now that he's in middle school, he's pretty quiet in school, and doesn't have a lot of friends.



This is Tommy.



He might be quiet at school, but he will communicate when playing video games. He even has his own Youtube channel.


This is Tommy.



And he's happy he's not a girl.



This is Tommy.



When he's not playing video games, he'll sometimes draw. He's better at it than I ever was.


This is Tommy.



He's a good big brother even though he says his sister is too loud for him. But he does say he loves her "a little bit."



This is Tommy.


And for a while, one of his obsessions was learning about the weather. He could tell you anything about the clouds.


This is Tommy.



He probably will never go to any of his school dances, but it's okay, because I'll dance with him.




This is Tommy.


He's amazing. And smart. And fabulous.

And if you let him.


He could be the best friend you ever had.




38 comments:

  1. I love this Amber...so so much. Drew is a few years younger and one thing that really helps me is moms like you with older kids who have Asperger's. It helps so much to see what they are doing and what they are like at an older age. That is so cool he has a You Tube channel :)

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  2. This is amazing!! I think anyone who's not his friend is totally missing out. Xxoo

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  3. Such a wonderful tribute! My son will be 5 next month, and he has asperger's too. I worry so much about him, it's so nice to read about kids like him. Brayden also thinks his sister is too loud for him 😃

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    1. Thank you! I'm sure your son will be fine :)

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  4. Tommy is a great kid, I can just tell!

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  5. what a great post! I have a son who has a 504 form, which is the next step down from an IEP. I have been so grateful for it, and kicked myself for not exploring it sooner. but its hard isn't it. Figuring it all out. My son is going to check out Tommy's youtube..and will probably instantly want to be his friend, LOL!

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    1. Awesome, I hope he enjoys Tommy's channel. He loves to post on it.

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  6. He's a very wonderful boy. You can just tell all the time. And Bing! I love that!

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  7. He is an awesome guy!! :) I love this post.

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  8. he sounds like one awesome kid!! a privilege to know, i'm sure of that.

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  9. Tommy is awesome! And he has an awesome mom and family. I like learning more about autism through posts like yours. I think every kid has challenges and we should be kind and informed about them if we can.

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  10. Aww! So sweet! Tommy sounds like such a neat kid!

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  11. Tommy sure is something wonderful and special! I have a great-nephew who has Aspergers, and I love him dearly. He has a gentleness especially towards younger kids and animals that brings tears to my eyes every time I see it. Kids with autism might have some mannerisms that other kids and many adults don't understand, but they also have some amazing qualities, if you just take the time to get to know them.

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  12. What a wonderful tribute to your son. And, I was wondering, since I googled IEP, and that tells me that he is on record with autism, if you could qualify for the same type of housing as you have now, based on the exceptional family member program? It would be such a small concession for the military to make.

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  13. Oh Amber your Tommy is sweet! That dancing picture is so cute and yes my son is grateful as well that he is also not a girl for the very same reason.

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  14. I have a daughter who has high functioning autism spectrum disorder. She is smart, funny, loving and kind. I think Tommy is amazing, all asd are amazing and brave!

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  15. I always appreciate the posts about Tommy, I think you are doing a good job in raising awareness and educating.

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  16. This is a wonderful tribute to him. It's awesome that you talk about him and his autism and are working to foster an understanding of autism.

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  17. I'm with all the other ladies, what a special tribute. Had me almost in happy/proud tears. I'm such a freaking sap!
    LOL at his look of horror at the period pamphlet!!

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  18. Happy he isn't a girl. LOL! That face is so precious! This made my day ;)

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  19. Fantastic post! Your son is amazing.

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  20. Beautiful post. Tommy seems like an awesome young man, and you're the perfect mom for him :)!

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  21. This really touched me, what an amazingly beautiful post, Amber... He's definitely an amazing guy!!

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  22. You need to send this to The Mighty. I consistently love your autism posts because they aren't really about autism at all, they're about an awesome kid who also happens to have autism.

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  23. This is a fantastic post! Tommy sounds like an amazing kid and he will do great things.

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  24. Aw I have tears! What an amazing gift, he is! You are a wonderful mom obviously!

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  25. Tommy reminds me so much of my brother! I've been reading your blogs/open diary since he was itty bitty and just watching him grow is amazing. I want to give you props as a mom, just as my mom did you let your son be who he is. My brother is now married and has a son of his own. It's amazing what can happen!

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  26. this is so sweet, it made me tear up a little bit. He's incredible, and you are such a good Mommy and friend to him!!!!

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  27. Amber, you have me crying! That picture of the two you in front of the tree and your sweet words.
    You're such a sweet and caring mama with an awesome young man.
    XOXO

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  28. Amber this is an AWESOME post about an AWESOME boy!

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  29. I LOVE this post! Tommy is such an individual and it's so fun to get to now more about him.

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  30. This is such a great post! Tommy is so lucky to have you as a mom and you are lucky to have him as a son.

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  31. Oh, wow. You hit me with all the feelings today. He is very lucky to have you as a mom!!

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  32. I love this! thank you for sharing your family with us.

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  33. Of course I don't know Tommy personally, but I think he's a pretty cool guy :) I think he'd get along well with Jayce, too. Jayce used to be obsessed over the weather when he was in Kindergarten. His teacher was convinced that he was going to be a meteorologist. Now, in 5th grade, he wants to be a computer programmer.

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  34. Thanks for introducing me to Tommy! Would you be interested in writing a guest post for my site? Maybe we could reciprocate? www.gobeyondautism.com

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    1. Sure, just let me know more details! Do you have a specific post idea in mind? Thank you!

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