Ways To Help People With Autism

My son has autism, and I've learned a lot in the 19 years that I have been his mother. It certainly hasn't always been easy. But at the same time, with each struggle, I have learned something. There are many people with autism and odds are, you'll probably come across one of them. Maybe you have someone with autism in your family. Here are ways to help them. 

Have patience. Tommy processes things differently than neurotypical people. Never tell them to hurry. When he was tiny, he wasn't talking as much as he should. I was worried. I thought he'd never speak. But eventually words began to form. I realized I had to have patience with him. He might not always do things at a pace that the world prefers--but he'll figure things out at his OWN pace in his OWN time. 

Be there for them.  Look, think of how tough the world is for neurotypical people. Double that--nay, TRIPLE that for neurodiverse people. The world is too loud, too smelly, too confusing to some people with autism. So remind them that they aren't alone. You might not always understand what they are feeling or going through, but sometimes just knowing someone is there and that someone cares is enough. 

Reassure them. I always remind Tommy that it'll be okay when I see he's struggling. I'll even be honest and say sometimes things don't work out as he wants. But guess what? He can try again.

Don't treat them like a baby. This can be tough for me. I want to do everything for Tommy. But I have to remind myself that I need to step back and let him learn on his own. Yes, he might fail at times. But it's a life lesson. 

Be understanding.  I let Tommy know I'm always here, no matter what. If I had a friend with autism I would tell them the same thing. 

I am grateful for my son every day. I would not be the person I am without him. If you ever come across someone with autism, you're incredibly lucky.