Sunday, January 30, 2022

Ways To Help People With Autism

My son has autism, and I've learned a lot in the 19 years that I have been his mother. It certainly hasn't always been easy. But at the same time, with each struggle, I have learned something. There are many people with autism and odds are, you'll probably come across one of them. Maybe you have someone with autism in your family. Here are ways to help them. 




Have patience. Tommy processes things differently than neurotypical people. Never tell them to hurry. When he was tiny, he wasn't talking as much as he should. I was worried. I thought he'd never speak. But eventually words began to form. I realized I had to have patience with him. He might not always do things at a pace that the world prefers--but he'll figure things out at his OWN pace in his OWN time. 


Be there for them.  Look, think of how tough the world is for neurotypical people. Double that--nay, TRIPLE that for neurodiverse people. The world is too loud, too smelly, too confusing to some people with autism. So remind them that they aren't alone. You might not always understand what they are feeling or going through, but sometimes just knowing someone is there and that someone cares is enough. 





Reassure them. I always remind Tommy that it'll be okay when I see he's struggling. I'll even be honest and say sometimes things don't work out as he wants. But guess what? He can try again.


Don't treat them like a baby. This can be tough for me. I want to do everything for Tommy. But I have to remind myself that I need to step back and let him learn on his own. Yes, he might fail at times. But it's a life lesson. 


Be understanding.  I let Tommy know I'm always here, no matter what. If I had a friend with autism I would tell them the same thing. 


I am grateful for my son every day. I would not be the person I am without him. If you ever come across someone with autism, you're incredibly lucky. 





28 comments:

  1. Thank you for sharing , your son is luckily to have you as his mom.

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  2. This is good wisdom for me. There is a man at my church who has special needs and this will help me when talking to him.

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  3. This is a demonstration of how parents should be, helping their children no matter what but also letting them explore the world and make the experience the teacher of this adventure, which is called life.

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  4. This is very helpful information to know, thanks for sharing this.

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  5. I have two nephews on the spectrum and I must say that I'm not sure if I always remember to not treat them like babies. Thanks for the reminder that they must learn and that sometimes the greatest lesson is from a failure.

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  6. Love this, I teach in an elementary school and next door to me is a couple students who are autistic. This has been great teaching opportunities for us to combine the students for activities.

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  7. Parents can be overprotective sometimes, but that can't always be a good thing. I love your advice. This is going to be a big help for kids with Autism to be anything they dream of achieving for themselves. You are a great mom.

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  8. These are such great tips. I do think that patience and reassurance are key!

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  9. I'm sure this has been an on-going learning experience for both of you but it sounds like you're balancing it perfectly! Like most great things in life, patience is key and you nailed these tips.

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  10. This information is SO needed!! I'm so glad you're sharing this for everyone (myself included!)

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  11. Autism is a problem for many. We need to talk about this.thanks for sharing the post

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  12. This is such great information! thanks for sharing this. one of m friends sons has autsim! it good to learn more

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  13. This was interesting to read. One of my son's class mates has autism. We are learning more about it as a result.

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  14. Great tips! I think patience is the most important part!

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    1. I think that the part not to treat them like a baby is very important as we always forgive about it and it's hard for us to step back sometimes. But this is the only way for them to learn!

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  15. Thanks for sharing this. Topping for me is to understand them and your son is so lucky to have a mom like you.

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  16. These are some great tips for everyone to read! It's important to make everyone feel included and valued and patience is the best place to start.

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  17. Yes patience and kind is most important thing while taking care of kids. You are awesome mom.

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  18. I am wondering if my grand son has Autisim. Time will tell I guess. Patience is probably a big one.

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  19. This is such a wonderful post. I have many family members who are autistic, and I agree with all of these, especially being patient with them.

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  20. I'm sure you are tempted to do everything for them, but like you say, it's better to let them learn to do things on their own.

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  21. I love everything about this post! My nephew has autism, and we treat him just as normal as possible. He is one smart guy, and he loves seeing everyone when they visit.

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  22. Thanks for sharing your experiences. Patience is definitely key. You sound like a wonderful mom!

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  23. Neurodiverse or not, your children are so blessed to have such a kind and supportive mother. Tommy looks like such a happy kid, and it's wonderful that we're having open conversations about being accepting and communicating better with people that process differently.

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  24. Your son is honor to have you as a mom. Keep up the good work with your son My hat is off to you.

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  25. These are all fabulous tips and enjoyed this post and appreciate you raising awareness and educating as it is so important for those that do not understand or know what you have shared. Thank you and love visiting your blog!

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